While these lovely chickies had tons-o-fun at a wedding, I spent my weekend attacking my closet. I finally decided to take the plunge, before buying Nina’s “
So, I made 5 piles:
1. Items I am keeping;
2. Items I am giving to Dress for Success (if you guys have any lightly worn/gently used suits, skirts, trousers, etc. that you do not use/want – please look into giving to this org ;
3. Items I am trashing;
4. Items I am giving to my mom: cash sweaters, dresses &
5. Items that no one over the age of 25 should be wearing:
Ok, so I have attacked my bedroom closets and will prob leave my hallway closets for next weekend (fun times right!) but what I realized after clearing out my denim stash was… I do not have a pair of cigarette jeans! And I need a cigarette jean…BAD!!
Anywho, my fav brand of jeans are
Here are some ciggy jeans I have found that look both, comfy & sexy:
Anyone have a fav pair of Ciggy Jeans or suggestions?
p.s.: does anyone have the J. Crew Matchstick Jean? Do you adore them? Matchsticks & Cigarettes…Sheesh~
p.p.s: I found 3 different MadMen-ish skirts hidden in the back of my closet – never worn! How awesome it this?!?! Strike that off my fall shopping list
Where did time go? How did the years go by sooo fast – DAMN! In all honesty, I really had no interest in hearing any of the details about her wedding either…I just did not want to know. Plus, why is it my business anyway, hello!
In any case, XX kept texting me with all the details in hopes I would change my mind and come as his guest…whatevz!!
Details include, but not limited to :
- Over 300 guests; (??)
– 10 bridesmaids; (if I had 10 bm’s I prob wouldn’t have any gf’s left to be guests)
– Mercedes bus to take the wedding party back & forth;
- Celebrity dance DJ and a live band;
- Reception held at a venue that was located on the water.
Did I really need to know this?? Did he really think bc of the above said details I was going to change my mind about accompanying him?
Truthfully though, I was curious to know what her dress looked like (doesn’t every girl?), but I kept my curiosity to myself…
The morning of the wedding XX attempted one last time to invite me (insane!) thereby incessantly reminding me that this day was her big day. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t unhappy for her, I just did NOT want to know ANYTHING about it. Not because I am single, but bc the chick getting married is part of my EX’s fam – this is not info I particularly find exciting…am I alone on this?
Anywho, later that day XX sent me a pic of his sis in her wedding gown. Would love to post the real pic, but that would not be cool. If I were to reference SATC, the bride would most likely resemble Charlotte in this pic:
I kid! (maybe, lol) But it made me wonder how some people get married soo young and others, much later in life. Sounds like a jejune thought, but remember that line from SATC where Charlotte says “I’ve been dating since I was 15! Where is he??”. LOL – one of my favs!
No seriously, where is he?
Happy Monday dahlings!
p.s. – I dedicate this post to ParkAvenuePrincess, the bloggy world’s Charlotte York Goldenblatt …
p.s.s. Did you know that Kristin Davis is actually a recovering alcoholic – Cah-ray-zee!
House of Harlow 1960
Gold Multi-Strand Necklace
(Richie says her next line will be influenced by Old England & Equestrian looks – I love English Prep!!)
(I really wanted the Prada patent-white leather shirred tote, but it is sold out - Boo!)
So, the other day while walking the pup, I was waiting for doggie to do her business, when I hear someone behind me say “cute dog!”. I turn around and there was Midtown Cutie, who just happened to be walking his boxer pup as well. MC starts talking to me about his new puppy and little do you know….we happen to be neighbors! (He lives across the street from me;-).
I usually never pay attention to people when I walk my pup, as there’s unwritten etiquette for NYC dog owners: while walking your dog, let your dog sniff another’s, politely smile & continue your walk. No convo is really exchanged between owners, so I was kind of taken off guard with MC being so friendly & starting a convo with me.
MC & I end up chatting for almost 20 mins, with doggies by our side, about all types of random stuff. He mentions he is originally from NJ…
HE: “I grew up in NJ. I also work there.” (the Jersey def came out with his random f* bombs, but it was more funny than uncomfortable ;->)
ME: “Really, reverse commute, huh? Why did you decide to live in Midtown?
HE: “Well, I figured, why would a single guy like me buy a house in NJ. Just single me & my dog? No way, plus I love the city.”
We chat more as he tells me about his summer house, his plans for the weekend and about his last dog that died of cancer (I know, sooo sad). I’m feeling he’s interested so I start getting a little nervous (I’m such a dork)…
ME: “Well, I gonna head back to my apt., do you want walk back with me?”
I don’t think he was really finished walking his pup, he just wanted to walk back with me…cute!
We head back to our area. Let me just say – MC was sooo cute. I mean so cute that even straight guys were staring at him on our walk back! We spent another 15 mins talking before I said “have a great weekend” and head back to my apt.
MC seemed really interested and was throwing signs at me that he was single, so I was curious as to why he didn’t ask me for my number?
Well, while updating a post later that day, I had an online convo with great blogger friend Otin (who gives excellent advice on guys, btw) as to why MC didn’t ask me for my info. O said it would have been too forward for him to do so. Plus, MC wasn’t even sure if I was single or not, since I didn’t mention anything about being so. That makes sense. Right? But – what if I never see him again?
That’s when O suggested, that if I did not see MC again while out on my daily pup walks I should -
“Buy a box of dog treats, give one to your dog so that the box is open, and then take the rest of the box and, if you can leave him a message or know where he lives, give him the rest of the box and tell him that your dog won’t eat them and you didn’t want to throw them out and you knew he had a dog!”
How cute was this idea?! Ok, I have never done anything like this before and I’m not the type to be that forward (I’m actually pretty shy, believe it or not…no seriously) It’s really not my m.o. But after walking the same path a few more times during the week, as I did that day, MC was no where to be seen. Sux!
So, I decided to takes O’s suggestion and go buy some doggie treats at D’ags. (why is everything in this store so damn expensive-ridiculous.) The only info I had of MC was the building he lived in & his first name. So I put the opened bag of treats – minus one – in a small bag with a note saying…
“Hey, this is MG, we met the other day while walking our dogs. Bought some treats for my dog and she doesn’t seem to like them, so I figured instead of throwing it out, why not see if your dog does. If you’re in the neighborhood and don’t feel like walking your dog by yourself, let me know, pups & I will join.”
Signed with my name & number.
LOL. Oh lord.
I was going to drop off the bag on Friday, but got home kind of late. Plus since he would have been leaving for the wknd anyway to his beach house, I figured, why not do this on Sunday, when he was gonna be back anywayz…
So, I head out late afternoon today to take pups for a walk and to make the quick stop at MC’s building. As I walk through the revolving doors, door-guy barks at me “NO DOGS IN THE LOBBY!”
RELAX door-guy, wtf! “I’m just dropping off a bag for someone.” Then a different door-guy comes up to me (what is this, the freakin’ White House?) and I say “I just wanted to leave this for MC, with the boxer pup”. He responds “Oh, MC, ok no problem.” And I leave the anti-dog lobby.
Hmm. Who knows if he’ll call or not, but I will say I’m kinda proud of myself for doing something outside of my comfort zone. Without risk there’s no reward right?
p.s. If he never gets back to me, I’ll have to plan a new path to walk the pups. Shucks. Singledom in the city folks!
Soo, remember those ‘tentative plans’ for this weekend? Well…neva happened!
Mind you, after he didn’t get back to me the Friday after the show, I pretty much left the DB thingy alone…until he texted me on Memorial Day about making plans for the week. What’s up with that? It all just seemed a little shady to me…
Anywayz, after pointless back & forth texts Tueday & Weds, we finally had a full text convo:
HE: ‘Hey. Hamptons was fun, My day was crazy. What r u up to the rest of the week. How was it today?’
ME: ‘this week Im wrking on a project that has a deadline for Friday eve so it’ll be crazy until then..are u going to be here this wknd or out of the city?’
HE: ‘I’ll be here. Let’s go out!’
ME: ‘cool. sat is one of my gf’s bday so shes celebrating w. friends at some bar. we can meet up there or after if ur up for it ’
HE: ‘Ok, I’ll give u a call Friday and we can figure it out’
ME: ‘sounds good. hope ur wk isnt too crazy!’
HE: ‘Urs either’
Seeing as how DB was M.I.A. all Memorial Day wknd, I was def not confident he would come through. So I had a quick convo with a guy friend telling him the situation – first about the whirlwind date week, then on being MIA and now acting interested again…
Guy Friend: “I bet he has an EX in the picture.”
ME: “Really? Why would you say that?”
Guy Friend: “He didn’t contact you all Memorial Day wknd, which is typically a wknd you spend with fam/gf/wife, etc. He might even be married!”
Married?!?! Are you f*ing kidding me?
Guy Friend: “If he was in the “Hampton’s” all wknd, why couldn’t even text to say hello.” (btw, at the show, he told me he didn’t even want to go to the Hampton’s bc he didn’t enjoy the company of the friend he would be staying w. there. He said he would prefer to do something in the city w. me that wknd…shady douche)
ME: “I know.”
Guy Friend: “When are you supposed to see him?”
ME: “Saturday. I think, who knows now.”
Guy Friend: “When will you know?”
ME: “He said he’ll call me this afternoon (Friday) to confirm tomorrow.”
Guy Friend: “Well its 4pm already, so that’s not a good sign. I say call him around 6pm, which is enough time and tell him you can meet today after all. If I was interested in a girl, I would def see them or make room for them, even if I made plans. But if he has plans already booked, he prob scheduled someone around you. And its prob an EX. A guy doesn’t act the way he did and then just disappear. She could have been away for a week or something and he tried to fit you in as much as he could before she came back.”
Are you kidding me…really? WTF!
ME: “You know what’s so weird. The very first time we spoke on the phone, I kept hearing a noise in the background. I wasn’t sure what it was, but our convo was so great I didn’t pay any attention to it after sometime. Then after an hour of convo DB says ‘Someone keeps ringing my bell’. I ask him ‘Why don’t you answer it?’. He responds ‘Well I’m looking out the window and can’t see who it is.’ I say ‘You don’t want to find out who it is?’ He says ‘Nah.’
Ah-huh. Although I thought that was strange, it was our first convo, so why make a thing out of it right? But I will say this – it was 9:30pm on a Thursday and the only person who has ever rang my bell at that misc. day/time was my crazy EX-EX, who was trying to get back with me. And I was def. not going to answer the door…and I didn’t.
Guy Friend: “Yea, that doesn’t sound good to me. Call him about today. I guarantee he will be busy and trust me when a guy is straight up with a girl, he will make time for her and not act like this. Something’s up.”
Ugh. It was all so pointless & unnecessarily complicated to me, but just to confirm my thinking that his acting shady was not a fallacy, I texted DB, instead of calling -
ME: ‘Hey, I finished earlier than I thought today, so if you’re free to meet up later let me know.’
3 hours later…
HE: ‘Hey, no I can’t swing tonight, but I’ll give you a ring tom afternoon about the eve.’
Sure you will DB!
I don’t respond…
Saturday comes…and Saturday goes. I find DB on my contact list and hit D-E-L-E-T-E.
So just as fast as DB had came into my life, was about as fast as he had left…done & done!
No worries dahlings – gonna keep it moving! xoxo ;->
2. What do you FEEL about me?
Ok, so I meet SF at a place around my area, since the place he suggested happened to be located near where my Ex-Ex works (I tell him this, bc god knows, the one time I head into the East 50′s I’ll run into XX). We get there, order drinks and talk about misc stuff. I hand him a small container of basketball-foil wrapped chocolates that I had found in a store last week, as a cute gift since he had gotten me a jersey a while back. He responds “that’s so nice of you”. Ah huh.
SF had just came back from a charity Golf torny that he had headed the night before, so we were discussing how it went..
HE: “It was a success. You should have come!”
ME: “I would have..but you didn’t invite me.” stupid
HE: “Would you have come?”ME: “Why not?”
HE: “You don’t have clubs right?”
HE: “You could have helped get sponsors! You and the dog in a cute outfit.”
Not a good pause here….
ME: “So…what do you think about me?”
HE: “Man, I think you’re phenomenal.”
ME: “Ok, then what do you FEEL about me? I’m not talking about love or something , I mean in general.”
HE: “I think you’re phenomenal.”
Uhm, according to book, this is the WRONG answer..excerpt from the book:
What do you feel about me?
“Once you have the answer to the 4th question, immediately ask the last one on Steve’s list. In most cases, how a man feels about you will be very different from what he thinks of you. He might say ‘How do I feel about you? I feel like when I’m not with you, I ain’t going to make it. I feel like you’re the one for me. Which is what you’re all looking for. The “I think you are ____”, is not going to cut it. [HELLO!! That's the answer SF gave to me. Freakin' hell crap.]
If, after you asked the question & probed deeper, you realize his feelings for you do not run that deep – that he’s just not there – then you need to not be there, too. Pump the breaks until you start hearing or feeling from him the things you think are important to hear and feel from a man with whom you’re willing to forge a relationship“
ME: “Your giving me mixed signals bc you’ll have these awesome text convos with me but then you don’t make plans to meet.”
HE: “I made plans to meet today.”
ME: “Yea bc I asked you when you were free. I’m not going to put forth any more effort into this if I’m not sure where I stand here, its been almost 2 months.”
He’s looking at me and it kinda looks like his eyes are tearing up? But I’m not sure… Then he says..
HE: “You know I was looking at your profile the other day. It says ‘maybe’ to having kids.”
ME: “It does?”
ME: “Well, I don’t now why bc I def do.” one day..
HE: “How many?”
ME: “I don’t know but I def want to.”
I don’t know why he was bringing this up right now. But, remember the convo him & I had on the last date, when I asked him “what was he looking for” and he responded “Mrs. Fanatico”? Well right before he said that, he said he was very picky bc his parents have been married forever and have a great marriage. So now, I’m thinking he’s one of those super picky, looking for the Mrs. Perfection type..like a Martha Stewart type in Louboutins who can run a corp, bake cookies and be love goddess du jour…stupid ass.
Anyways, SF has a meeting early the next morning (which he had mentioned before we met) and he can’t stay much longer…
HE: “You should come back to CT with me.”
Uhm what? So now I’m like a take-home dinner..WTH – again!
ME: “What are you doing Sat?”
HE: “Depends on the weather. but I don’t have any plans yet.”
-few moments of silence-
HE: “I’m thinking of renting out my house and then renting an apt in the city.”
I have no idea where this is coming from but he sounds like he’s full of shit anyway..shocking.! And – he doesn’t try to make plans with me for his ‘free’ Saturday!! HUH! Huh?
I say nothing about this as he grabs the check. As we turn to leave the place, I can see that he hasn’t taken the container of basketball chocolates I gave him – he totally forgets it at the bar- another fucktastic sign! Awesome.
We walk out and before we part I say…
ME: “I’m not going to call you anymore, so you’re gonna have to figure out what you want to do.”
HE: “I know, you shouldn’t. I’m gonna think about stuff on the train ride home and figure it out.”
What the hell-of-all-hells does this mean?? What a GAME player. Man.
ME: “Oh, and make sure you enjoy the chocolates on your ride.”
He finally realizes he forgot them inside and says:
HE: “Oh man, did you grab them?” jerk
ME: “Have a safe trip home.”
Like in a movie, I immediately turn around and walk away. My eyes are totally swelling up with tears!
Who is this guy? Where did this guy from?? This is NOT the same dude I have been dating for almost 2 months!?! It’s like a totally different guy and…I have NO IDEA WHY.
I finally reach my apt and I am super upset. I’m trying to figure out which gf to call to have an emergency cocktail with. I look at my cell and see a txt from SF ‘I can’t get the box of chocolates open, can you help me?’
Then my doorbell rings –
ME: “Who is it?”
I buzz jerkface in…
HE: “I couldn’t get the container open!”
He comes in and I open the container for him – what is this crap he’s pulling?? – he offers me a chocolate and then a kiss (the Lemonade cocktail I had was screwing with my head).
He clearly wants to stay over. I say:
ME: “You should go. You’re lucky you came back, bc you hurt my feelings.”
HE: “I would never want to do that. I’m not that type of guy.” yea right!
He leaves and I’m left feeling totally confused and still hurt bc I don’t get this b.s. game he’s playing. Or played.
But then, I kinda do.
See, if a guy really likes you and is truly interested in you, he wouldn’t act this way…it wouldn’t be this difficult to figure out. It’s not that I’m an idiot. I just really liked him. A lot.
My feelings are hurt. And this sucks. Big time. ;-<