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You Know You’ve Been Online Dating Too Long When…

14 Jun, 2010 | Online Dating World

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the very FIRST guy you’ve ever met on an online dating site 4 years ago, finds you back on the same site & emails you…

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WTF Weds: Ridiculous shiz you’ve done to win back an Ex.

21 Apr, 2010 | Dating Dilemmas

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Ever do something insanely ridic to win back an Ex? Well, the fabulush & hilariously insane crowd @ Flatiron Lounge had some interesting input regarding this scenario…

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Cosmo Time: Guys Who Call Their Ex’s “Psycho”

7 Apr, 2010 | Single Girl Research

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Sooo…remember the date I had last wknd with that jerkface? Remember how he described his last 2 ex’s as “Psychos“?? And – you know how I always say, guys who call their ex’s psycho, usually have something wrong with them??

Well, read on…

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Dating Dilemma: "Snacking" on Your Exes…

7 Mar, 2010 | Dating Dilemmas, Ex-Factor

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Sooo….

The other night I came home and realized – I forgot to set my DVR!!!

Sweet.

So in an effort to detox, I channel surfed hoping to find something to get my mind off of DVR rage and alas…the Tyra Banks show came to my rescue!

On this particular episode, she had on Heather Belle & Michelle Fiordaliso, authors of “Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ex.”, answering audience questions (my fav part of the show) relating to the Ex-factor.

One girl got up and explained to the authors her situation & the exchange went something like this…

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Dating Dilemma: Twitter Had Me Thinking…Why Do Men Cheat?

9 Dec, 2009 | Dating Dilemmas

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Last week, I had a brief tweet-convo with @aubree11 & @singlecityguy on why guys cheat…

(FYI – more on

@aubree11 in a future post, as she has an exciting social app for singles coming out early January 2010 – yay for Aubree!!)

My response was pretty much: If a guy loves a girl, he won’t cheat. If he is unhappy in the relationship, well then – that is another story.

Sounds really simple right? But I really don’t know what goes on in a guy’s head, so I figured ‘why not look up reasons as to why some guys cheat’.

You see, cheating was the main reason why my Ex-Ex & I broke up over 3 yrs ago & what would eventually lead to Midtown Girl. By the time Ex-Ex had cheated, our relationship had already become a pure shit-fest. We had no communication & the mutual disdain had the both of us avoiding each other at all cost. How lovely, right!!!

Btw – I never wrote a full post on this scandal bc I am saving it for a special project – details coming soon! In the meantime, new MG readers can enjoy my craptastical dating adventures in past Character Breakdowns such as : Italian Stallion & Kansas City Juice.

Moving on…I found this article: “9 Reasons Why Men Cheat” and thought I’d share it with you, my faithful dahlings:

9 Reasons Why Men Cheat…Is He Being Unfaithful to You?
Source: By The Lifescript Editorial Staff
Published October 04, 2009

Why They Say They Cheat-

Here are 9 excuses guys give for doing the extramarital mambo:
source: here @ lifescript.com

1. She ain’t what she used to be: Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. “If she got lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” Santagati says.

And men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still be demanding perfection from her. “It’s the typical double standard.” (People should be fit to look good for themselves, never for someone else!)

2. No one loves a ball buster: Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. “She’s like a mosquito,” Santagati says. “He doesn’t want to have sex with her; he wants to [swat her away].” The more viable option: hot sex with a more “understanding” woman. (Not sure if “ball busters” are necessarily not understanding, they’re just plain annoying. Annoying peeps suck – just GO.)

3. She just doesn’t “get” me: Men who cheat say they don’t feel understood by their mate. But it’s not always the woman. Mostly they’re either angry or afraid to connect. (Yea, I don’t “get” this one either…)

4. It’s the thrill: Most guys who have affairs are getting in touch with their inner caveman: They like to play with fire. By keeping surprise and sizzle in your sex life, a woman can keep the home fires burning so hot that her man won’t have any reason to cheat. Solomon says men also cheat because of fear, loneliness or anger. “The betraying partner’s failure to deal with these feelings is what causes him to be unfaithful,” he says. (So they are angry cavemen…whaaa?)

5. Blame it on the “hunter.”: Often, married men who cheat can’t quite explain their motivation. They just find themselves compelled to bust out of their day-to-day routine in search of something new. (Ever try Wii? Bowling & Tennis are my favs…try it fellas!)

6. Biology, baby: “It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible,” Santagati says. “Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn’t matter if you’re Jessica Alba or Sienna Miller, we become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types. We’re only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid.” (Doesn’t this cancel out #1?! I’m confused…)

But Juliet Williams, associate professor of women’s studies at UCLA disagrees. “No matter how stunningly high the number of male cheaters, we know it’s not biological,” she says. “There are still a higher percentage of men who are monogamous.” (Why thank you for clarifying, Juliet!)

7. It’s just sex: For most guys, sex and love are two entirely different things. “We really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women.’ We separate it in our brains,” Santagati says. (That’s kinda…sick.)

8. Not tonight, dear.: Let’s face it. Men want more sex than women. (Uhm.Says.WHO?)

9. Because we can: Ok, we’re guys, remember? It’s hard to resist temptation, especially when it’s at our fingertips. Thanks to the Internet, it’s easier for men to cheat anytime, anywhere… while they’re watching TV or on the laptop in bed next to their sleeping wives. (DAMN – this one is Effed Up X 100! And scary as hell.)

Forgive and Forget?

Whether your man is having sex online or in a hotel room, should you take him back?

Oh.Hell.No. Your thoughts, lovelies?

kissies,

p.s. Please don’t forget – enter my Giveaway to win a $50 Gift Card to Daffy’s – enter HERE!!

p.p.s. I love Twitter! Convo with me here: https://twitter.com/MidtownGirl

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Crazy but True: Nightmare on EX Street…

19 Oct, 2009 | Ex-Factor

DUDE!

WTF is up with my crazy EX-EX incessantly calling me ALL DAY (like over a 100 times – I’m DEAD serious) and leaving like 30 VM’s.

Obviously he knew it was my Bday but seriously – GO the F AWAY!

And to TOP it off, I have to listen to the first few seconds of each VM in order to delete each one. So even though I’m not hearing the whole message, I’m feeling the attitude behind each one.

Let me share with you a verbal montage of his VM bullshit:

Late Morning (in an irritated voice): “MG, why can’t you just pick up…”

Early Afternoon (somewhat sad): “Look, I just want to say…”

Mid Afternoon (through a soft weep): “I can’t believe your ignoring…”

Late Afternoon (realizing he’s insane): “This is my LAST call…”

Early Eve (EXTREMELY irritated): “This is bullshit!…”

Mid Eve (back to sad): “Why are you doing this…”

Late Eve (trying to sound sane): “Ha-ha, oh come on…”

Almost Midnight (sounding hurt): “Your Bday is almost o…”

OMG. Leave me alone please. It’s been 4 YEARS. Yes, FOUR years. Get a grip already…DAMN!

Anyone else have a similar craptastic experience with an EX???

still annoyed,

p.s. If you haven’t already – please enter the MG Bday giveaway HERE to win a $100 F21 Gift Certificate AND

p.p.s. Today is Midtown PUPS Birthday!!! She is officially 2 yrs old – My Sweety Pie!! Here is a pic of her on her 1st Bday…

(Her doggie day care actually threw her a birthday party – how cutie is that?!?!)

Love you Foreva Puppy-doll!!!
XOXO

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Crazy but True…Parting with Ex-Bling :-)

26 Jul, 2009 | Ex-Factor

Where was this 3 years ago when I broke up with my EX-EX?!?

OutOfYourLife.com: “Sell broken engagement rings, diamond wedding rings and other fine jewelry at Out of Your Life.

There are zillions of reasons why you’re better off without him. And one major reason you’ll be better off without his bling: all the jewelry he gave you is worth money!

You may be asking yourself, “Why do I need to sell my diamond engagement ring?” When relationships end, engagement rings, earrings, pendants, watches or tennis bracelets suddenly lose their sentimental value.

No demands, no sweet talk – just money. Request your free Break-Up Box and get him Out of Your Life today!“

Ok, so EX-EX & I were never engaged, but he def gave me a bunch of pretty little things…in fact…

Where are they now?

I searched my apt for the gifts EX-EX had give me years ago and I cannot find them.

I know I would never throw them out. Ever. I could never be that hasty.

So where the heck is all the the Ex-bling???

Please tell me I did not give them back to that cheater, especially now that ‘Out of Your Life‘ is at my disposal?

NO WAY. Did I…?

confused kissies,

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