One girl got up and explained to the authors her situation & the exchange went something like this…
Girl in audience: “My ex and I broke up about a yr ago and we are still friends. I see him often and he is like a best friend to me. We talk all the time bc I feel comfortable talking to him about everything. Is it bad that he is still in my life?”
Authors: “Do you still sleep with your Ex?”
Girl in audience: “Yes.”
Authors: “Are you dating anyone currently?”
Girl in audience: “Yea, but I really haven’t found anyone that interesting.”
Authors: “What you are doing is called ‘Snacking‘. It’s the act of keeping/using exes for different reasons, thereby never allowing yourself to really be available for a new guy. In order to be really ready, you need to be ‘hungry‘ enough to be in a new relationship. Cut the ties with your Ex.”
Last year, I made the decision to not only cut out (or try to, anyway) toxic peeps, but also my Exes. And it’s not because I hated them or anything.
I just finally realized that I needed to be free & clear, both emotionally & mentally, in order to be in a good place in my life.
Dependence on Exes, in whatever way, is just unhealthy, especially if you are actively dating.