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I have a question and thought you dahlings could chime in…cuz ya know I love your input ;-)

I have gf who has been a best friend for a few years now. She is awesome – always gives the best advice, is a great listener & a true bright light of positivity.

We used to have a girl’s night out once every 2 weeks, which is pretty amazing since our schedules always seemed to conflict with each other. Convos would be a part of our daily routines & she was the first person I would go to when asking for advice on the current stat of a guy (and of course wardrobe opinions – especially with my Date Night Outfits).

Then, she got into a serious relationship with a guy.

And I am really happy for her. Seriously I am.

But now…we hardly ever talk and our convos usually consist of:

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This article reminded me of an experience I had years ago…

Back in my I-banking days, a male co-worker and I used to go out for cocktails during week nights after a hectic 12 hour work day. At the time, he was jumping in & out of an unhealthy relationship, so when we would go out to lounges/bars, I would end up taking the role of “wingwoman“.

According to this article, a “wingwoman” is defined as: a girl who helps guys meet chicks in bars by posing as the guys’ platonic female friend.

In my case, I wasn’t posing as his friend, I really was one! But the author here actually worked as a part-time wingwoman. Apparently “wingwoman services are available in many cities, including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and Saint Louis.”

Holy crap..who knew???

Wingtip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.

Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

MG: TRUE. One time my guy friend had his eye on this one cutie in the crowd. Unfortunately, she was surrounded by a sorority-like entourage and he became totally intimidated. Later on that eve, while dabbing on some gloss in the ladies room, I had bumped into the girl my guy friend was interested in. While chatting up lip-gloss shades, I mentioned to her how my guy friend thought she was adorable.

After wards, she started up a convo with him!! Aren’t I awesome??

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And speaking of guys..

I am sure I have made the mistake of TMI while having convos with a guy during the early stages of courtship. So what better way to figure out what one should or shouldn’t say with -
The number of guys you slept with.
LOL!!! Do guy’s really ask this question? Uhm, let’s put it this way – either change the subject or keep the number very, VERY low.

What happened that time you got food poisoning.
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If a guy really likes/loves you and is bothered by one of your not so pleasant experiences- I would question how much of your time he’s really worth.

Where you learned your signature sex move.

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A while back, one of my gf’s tried to work things out with her Ex. She said she had to end the re-hashed relationship soon after, when he started trying out his “new moves” on her.
Signature moves = signature hoe.

That no matter how happy you are, you still pine for your ex—especially sexually.
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Awwww – time to take a break from dating/new bf’s, if your Ex is still on your mind…no need to drag the past into the present!

Mustache bleaching (not to mention what happens when your bikini waxer takes a long vacay).

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There are some things that were meant to be private. Not everything has to be shared…p.s. guys & leg stubble are enemies, so whether you’re dating, in a serious relationship or married, try to keep the limbs fuzz-free (esp. in the winter season).

That every once in a while you snoop around his e-mail, call log and/or browser history—just to see what he really thinks of you.
Ya. I would never do this, in general. Why? Bc I wouldn’t want a guy doing this to me.

I had this happen to me by crazy stalker ex’s bc they were either psycho, insecure, and/or cheaters. Stay AWAY from MG’s stuff!!!

Your best sex—unless, of course, it was with him.
Guys have an ego, especially when it comes to this subject. So if he’s not your “best”, don’t bring up the subject. Bonus points if you make him feel like he’s the best at something else…you know, like at driving, fixing things, choosing fabulush restaurants…whatevz!! ;-)

That “Braceface” was the nicest of the nicknames you had in elementary school.
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I wouldn’t mind sharing some of my horrific junior high school stories with a bf. Seriously, if he has a prob with my past, then he can go be a part of it as well. Holler.

Just how hot you think his friend is. Nothing good can come of his worrying that you’re seeing his best bud’s face in bed and not his.
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What kind of Skankity-skank would do this??? Ick.

That you once hooked up with your best guy friend.

Who cares?? It’s in the past, but seriously…I would keep convos about your sexual past to a minimum.
Besides, Good girls always get the guy...right?

kissies,
p.s. – Urban Signals posted the ABC News clip on FB!!! I will figure out how to put it on MG or my YouTube tom;-)

p.p.s – Date Night Outfit post on Friday, XOXO

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Who hasn’t Googled something about dating / relationships / love / romance???
This commercial is actually from Nov ’09 but Google execs decided to drop a load a cash – 2.5 million – to have it viewed during the Super Bowl (uber-smart decision, I must say)!
This commercial had me feeling mushy all over ;-)
sentimental kissies,

p.s. – For some insane reason, IE doesn’t load MG properly. I am looking into this dilemma. Please use FireFox or Google Chrome to view MG…sorry my loves, I will fix this prob ASAP!! XOXO
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How about if you & I take a stroll through Glamour’s “8 Relationship Rules to Retire” and decide which rules should stay and which ones need to go…
“8 Relationship Rules It’s Time to Retire”
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1. Relationship Rule to Retire: Wait for the guy to call you.
My fabulous & newest bestie, Jordana of Clutch22, recently gave me the bestselling book, “He’s Just Not Into” for research on a project I am working on (besides Project Relationship, that is).
Even though the movie adaptation annoyed me to high hell, the book was very…helpful. It’s always good to get a guy’s input, bc only guys know what guys really mean.

So in the book, co-author Greg says -

“When men want you, they do the work. I know it sounds old school, but when men like women, they ask them out.”

See, how simple is that!? I’ll take old school any day.
2. Relationship Rule to Retire: Lie about your busy weekend schedule so he’ll (theoretically) want to go out with you even more.
I never got this whole “pretending to be busy” thing anyway, so I say kill this rule. In reference to the book above, according to Greg, when guys say they are busy it translates to this –

“The word “busy” is a load of crap and is most often used by a**holes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction.”

Ladies, this rule works both ways. Don’t be an a**hole.

3. Relationship Rule to Retire: Call after the obligatory three days.

Ya. This one has to die…like right now. With texting/bbm’s and even Twitter DM’s, there is NO reason anyone needs to wait 3 days. Eff-that.

4. Relationship Rule to Retire: Cook for your man.

What’s wrong with cookin’ for the boy? This is a sweet, endearing gesture and shows that you care about your man. I mean, unless your cooking skills are shit-tay…are they??

5. Relationship Rule to Retire: Let the man (always) pay the bill.

First, men should ALWAYS pay on the first date. Period. He doesn’t always have to pay, but if he makes more money than you, then what’s the prob?

Second, if we keep rule #4 alive, then paying for dinner won’t be an issue.

Problem solved – YAY!

6. Relationship Rule to Retire: Put on a show to impress your date.
Depends on the show…! No seriously, you can be yourself on a date, just a more amped-up version of your fabulush self. No need for crazy stories, name dropping (effing hate when peeps do this, just shut it!), or running down your resume’s bullet points…so ovah this!

Funny, sweet & smart will always work…every time ;-)

7. Relationship Rule to Retire: Divide TV time equally.
How much TV do people actually watch that there needs to be “equal TV time”…the hell, folks? Besides, with DVR & hulu.com, both parties can watch anything at anytime.

Problem solved – YAY, again!

8. Relationship Rule to Retire: Go out alone on a first date.
I guess this works if you are in high school or in college, but as fully grown adults…NO. First dates should be on a one-on-one basis.

MG
deems this rule shall STAY ALIVE FOREVER x 100.
kissies,
Dahlings – I am in the middle of ze WordPress switch, so please bear with any page issues. I am still here & always will be…I heart you dolls tons!!! AND

An Invitation from thatsLadyLike.com for my fabulush West Coast/SF dolls!!!

  • Hosts: Ladylike x Adapt Clothing
  • Who: You, who happens to be 21+
  • Where: 111 Minna Gallery, San Francisco
  • When: Fri, 1/29/10 from 9-10pm (please arrive early/on time), celebration cont. to 2am
  • RSVP: free with guestlist before 10pm: info@thatsladylike.com
With special drinks, Ladylike & Adapt goodies, raffle giveaways!
Special “Heart of the City” hoodie release.
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It’s COSMO time!!!

So…ever wonder what guys notice about you immediately when you first meet them? Well, wonder no more, dolls!

Cosmo breaks down what the darling gents pay attention to, as soon as they set their eyes on us

Cosmo’s “The 6 Things Guys Notice 6 Seconds After You Meet”
by Ky Henderson – source

1. Your Smile

Does it seem sweet and genuine? Does it seem awkward and forced? Does it seem like you ate a sesame-seed and parsley salad for lunch based on what’s lodged between every single one of your teeth?

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2. Your Hair

Guys have no idea what split ends are, and if you mention roots, they just think of the band. But they do look to see if your hair looks 1. soft and 2. as though it would smell good. So don’t request “The Gosselin” at the salon, and wash it every so often. That’s all guys ask.

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3. Your Cleavage

Newsflash: Dudes like to look at your chest. Now, that’s not to say they think all women should unbutton their shirts to their bellybuttons at funerals. (Though really, who are guys to judge?) But they will notice how you’re showing off what you’ve got.

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4. Your Makeup

If you’re wearing so much makeup that it looks like you’ve painted an entirely new face on top of your actual face, guys will wonder if you’re trying to cover up some bizarre deformation — or if you’re Gotham City’s most dangerous criminal mastermind.

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5. Your Skin

You know that blemish you’ve been obsessing over all day because it’s so huge? Chances are guys won’t even notice. What will they notice? If you look like a jaundiced Oompa-Loompa because of overenthusiastic tanning.

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6. Your Bag

Are all women who haul around big purses — in other words, cavernous rucksacks stuffed full of old receipts, emergency sweaters, and half-used bottles of hand sanitizer — high maintenance? Maybe not. But guys will go ahead and assume they are anyway.

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Dahlings – what do you think is the 1st thing a guy notices about you?

kissies,

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I recently read this NY Post article & wanted to share it with you dahlings…

Poll: Half of Manhattan residents live alone

By CHUCK BENNETT - Last Updated: 10:31 AM, October 30, 2009

New Yorkers have no excuse for dateless Friday nights.

More than half of all Manhattan residents are living alone — and the number of singles in the city is continuing to rise to historic levels, new Census Bureau data show.

That means you’ve got a 50-50 shot that the cute neighbor down the hall is looking for love.

The borough now resembles some kind of “Sex and the City” fantasyland with a majority of households, 50.3 percent, with just one resident — no roommate, no spouse, no family, no kids…

There are numerous forces turning Manhattan into an isle of singletons, explained William Helmreich, deputy chairman of City College’s sociology department. The factors include high-paying jobs, the expense of raising a family, longer-living widows and widowers, and, of course, a celebrated culture of singledom.

“Singles attract more singles,” he said. “They participate in a lifestyle that is mutually reinforcing. The more single people engage in that lifestyle, the more acceptable it is, and the more acceptable it is, the more people are going to do it.”

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Sociologists now call the time people in their 20s and 30s spend solo “early adulthood” to differentiate it from the period before they marry and have children — which is happening later and later…
Ladies, however, are at a disadvantage.
There are 212,000 single female households compared with 165,000 male single.

Many of those women are lonely hearts, but they aren’t all Carrie Bradshaws….

~Huh. Interesting read & stats, right?~
Well CHECK OUT some comments posted under the article – DAMN
From Comment Section:
( sourced but I refuse to list the commenter’s name – aww hellz naw)
From ‘C’- “The women of NYC are complete slobs or golddiggers! Who wants to date some fat, sloppy cow with no class. Hip Hop Culture, Activism and Liberalism.I say stick to Latin American women and Slavic women, but never a NYC born hag.”

‘C’ again - “Most women in NYC dress and look like crap. When you women start dressing like Russians: straight hair, high heels, pretty face, make up and thong, then perhaps I will consider going after you. As for Latinas, you girls need to a get over your self-important independent mindset. Having a job and making 50k does not make you a catch. And no, I do not want to be bother with any drama from that for real, we is, we was? ghetto ex boyfriend of yours. In conclusion, most of you women need to grade yourself on a global scale to know your true value. Meaning: dress hot (straight hair, thong, fit), speak proper and have class and style. There are many good guys there in Wall St, who do honest work and dress sharp and are good people….why should we settle for anything less than a 9.5?”

Response to that last ‘C’ comment: “You don’t need to worry about women not living up to your standards. Guess what? We have no interest in your type. You could look like a GQ cover model or make millions, you are still an egotistical bore. Women love men who love women, not men who put them down. Period. And guess what? According to this article (and many of my single friends) lots of women love living alone, meaning without an idiot like you who requires “straight hair” and a “thong” I suggest you simply pay for it, jerk.”

Whoa. OkaaayThoughts???

kissies,

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And SPEAKING of Giveaways
The beautiful Savvy Gal from
Savvy Mode
informed me that I won her
Oversize Watch Giveaway!
HOW AWESOME IS THAT?!?!?!

So freakin’ excited – thank you tons Savvy Gal &
dahlings, please go check out her fab blog!

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