Dating Girl: Are Dating Apps Killing Romance?

Written by on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014 with 2 comments

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by @KimberleeVDW

I’ve shared my reviews of dating apps before for Dating Girl, most being negative experiences. But with more and more people owning smartphones, that seems to be the new wave of dating. I’m worried it’s not all good. It’s bad enough people stare at their phones while walking the streets or worse while you’re at dinner with them trying to have a conversation.

Now we’re becoming too lazy to put the work into romance. 

More and more GPS-enabled apps are popping up: TinderMeetMoi (recently acquired by Match) and Grindr for starters. It seems like information about the potential match is no longer required and now photos and “how far are they from me?” are the new standard. Most of these apps only leave a small space for a description, which is rarely filled out. Dating sites like Match and OkCupid have their own apps where you can access the user’s profile but people still use it in the same manner as another app (i.e. swiping through photos).

Most of these apps, led by the phenomena Grindr, are used for casual sex (hey, good for you!). However, if you’re not looking for that (like myself), then what options are available to you? I’ve been using an app, Hinge, for the past few months which is supposed to search your Facebook friend’s single friends for matches.

However, even that provides little information and once matched guys are lazy about messaging. 

In a recent article in Psychology Today, therapist Ken Page says that all these apps have “created a lot more micro-jerkiness in early-stage dating than there has ever been before.” Oh good… I thought it was just me.

My experience with dating apps is that it has completely killed the romance factor.

Once matched guys just want to meet up in a casual way that implies they have something else on the brain (i.e. texting you at 1am “you up?”).

What say you? Do you think these type of apps are killing romance? What’s been your experience? 
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Kimberlee blogs about her love of fashion and beauty at I Have A Degree In This!. She’s lived in Midtown Manhattan for 8 years and has tried it all when it comes to dating. 
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2 Comments on “Dating Girl: Are Dating Apps Killing Romance?”

  1. Thanks Danielle. Yeah I go back to Dating Sites on and off because I live in NYC which has a similar issue. I just wish there was perhaps an app that encouraged conversation more.

  2. haha I don’t think that exists anymore.

    I like certain sites because yes you get full details but these apps are all about pics and quick hook ups. you get basically no info about the person so you’re supposed to message but the guys never do unless it’s to hook up!

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