Can You Really Find – "The One" Online??? YES!

Written by on Thursday, September 3rd, 2009 with 19 comments

Just ask Diana from Our.City.Lights!

I was first introduced to Diana’s lovely blog, through a guest post she did on another fabulous blog & awesome bloggy friend, Dream Sequins (whom I will be meeting IRL next week at her pre-fashion week meet up event – sooo excited to finally meet you D! Yay X 100!!).

Diana graciously agreed to be a featured blogger on Midtown Girl, since she actually did meet her wonderful hubs through online-dating! I wanted Diana to share bits of her story with us single chicks – who are still searching for “The One” – bc as you have read in my previous post, sometimes it really does feel like it could never happen.

But as you will read from Diana’s answers…it really does & DID:

What initially made you decide to try online dating?

There is actually a funny story to tell with this- my friend signed up for a dating site, and it was free as long as you kept referring people. I told her I would sign up for her so she can get more free time. If I didn’t have her as an initiative, I would have never been able to do it!

What is your view in regards to the woman initiating contact with a potential match?
I was raised in a very traditional thinking home-whether it was dating, marriage, lifestyle, everything. That sort of thinking was challenging with a modern way of dating. I think if a woman knows what she wants, and who she is, online-dating can be a much more successful environment, even if isn’t the traditional way of dating.
Did you ever feel at times, online dating just wasn’t working for you?(Sometimes, I sure do!) If so, what made you stick with it?
At the time, online dating was just coming to. I was embarrassed to tell people I was on a dating website, but initially, this was one of the first things I’ve done for myself, regardless of what my friends and family thought.

How long were you online dating for, before you met the hubs?
I was on the website for a couple of weeks when he emailed me.
How did you know your hubs was the one? (what specific moment/date, etc.)
One of the things I really appreciate is a love for academia, Christ, and libraries. How was I supposed to find someone so specific in a bar or coffee shop? I was hesitant, but after building a friendship online with the goal of dating, he was what I really had in mind and worth the wait.

I was seeing someone else at the time, and Scott would do the nontraditional things that impressed me. He would buy me DVD’s, video games, rather than expensive roses, or cheesy stuffed animals. Instead of an expensive night out, he would host themed dinners at his place instead. Not only was he smart, but he was so creative!

Did you feel you had a special connection to your hubs b/c he chose the online dating route as well (besides other reasons of course)?
Yes. There is this idea that online dating is for awkward, shy people, but Scott and I were just really busy people at the time who knew what we wanted and didn’t want to deal with the hustle and bustle of bars, coffee shops, and awkward first dates.

Do you feel that the online dating world has changed since you’ve last been a part of it? If so, in what way(s)?
Yes! I think there are more options to websites, and more people! It’s more accepted now and there are more themed websites than just general dating websites.
If you could give one piece of great advice to those who are still out there searching for ‘the One’, like me, what would it be?
Know what you want, don’t settle because of frustration.

I think online dating takes a lot of discipline, and a certain level of emotional maturity. I’ve seen friends on both ends succeed and get their hearts broken because they couldn’t move on and meet the next person. I think you have to be able to have detachment.

If it doesn’t work out, no problem, learn from it and move on. There is a right person looking for you, too.

Does not her words make you smile? And how amazing is the timing of this post? When you’re down in the dumps, bloggy friends are there to the rescue – love you tons Diana!

– OH AND ONE MORE THING –

Bloggy Friends Are Awesome!
To my readers: thank you so very much for leaving such endearing and sweet comments in my last post. The bloggy world is awesome bc of the people who are in it – luv YOU- XOXO!


Back with weekend kissies,

19 Comments on “Can You Really Find – "The One" Online??? YES!”

  1. No way! I had no idea you all met online. That's so awesome. I've always wanted to try online dating, but I've been stuck with my boyfriend ever since it really became popular. And I don't think he'd be too jazzed about it, so I don't. But this is an awesome story. Mazel tov!

  2. Ok the kissies are back! That makes me happy! I hear a lot of stories about people meeting on line! You will find your "One". When you do, you better keep blogging!!! 🙂

  3. I'm telling you, I met my husband online. You have to keep an open mind. I did. I'm glad I did. Our one year wedding anniversary is this October.

  4. I love Diana…and she gives me inspiration to try the online dating thing again!! So do you chickie!!!

    LOVE MY BLOGGY FRIENDS!

  5. I am going to dreamsequins event also cant wait to meet you there! I must confess even though I dont like to say it often but I met someone very important to me online lol. Have a great weekend

  6. i heart you too my blog homie! thanks for the feature definitely fun to read. I've known a couple people that have met through online dating and ended up getting married…. and yes EVEN ON MYSPACE. but that was circa 2003 when they first started and shit was real not creepy.

    and dude…you know exactly what i mean about the snooze you lose…like seriously a blink of an eye the food can be gone. like shut up eat..and then talk later. hahaha lub ya bitch! xoxo have a fabulous weekend

  7. I don't know if I told u, but my aunt and uncle found each other on-line. They're not young, but they have been together for almost 10 years now! That's a good thing! 🙂 They even got matching license plates with their on-line names. …I know! 🙂 but it's cute!

  8. I am SO happy we finally met yesterday! I cannot wait to see you tomorrow. After that we have to make plans to meet for coffee or a drink or dinner or whatever:) yay! xx

  9. diana is awesome and i'm so glad to learn a little more about her personal story. scott does sound like a creative guy, how could it be any other way?!

  10. I think the choice really depends on the person. One part of me feels like I have to be the one to fish through emails and look at profiles and go on a dating website that I choose because no one knows me better than I do. But another part of me would prefer an expert to match me up with someone and possibly eliminate those people I will not connect with. Maybe someday I will try both to see which works better.

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