Just ask Diana from Our.City.Lights!

I was first introduced to Diana’s lovely blog, through a guest post she did on another fabulous blog & awesome bloggy friend, Dream Sequins (whom I will be meeting IRL next week at her pre-fashion week meet up event – sooo excited to finally meet you D! Yay X 100!!).

Diana graciously agreed to be a featured blogger on Midtown Girl, since she actually did meet her wonderful hubs through online-dating! I wanted Diana to share bits of her story with us single chicks – who are still searching for “The One” – bc as you have read in my previous post, sometimes it really does feel like it could never happen.

But as you will read from Diana’s answers…it really does & DID:

What initially made you decide to try online dating?

There is actually a funny story to tell with this- my friend signed up for a dating site, and it was free as long as you kept referring people. I told her I would sign up for her so she can get more free time. If I didn’t have her as an initiative, I would have never been able to do it!

What is your view in regards to the woman initiating contact with a potential match?
I was raised in a very traditional thinking home-whether it was dating, marriage, lifestyle, everything. That sort of thinking was challenging with a modern way of dating. I think if a woman knows what she wants, and who she is, online-dating can be a much more successful environment, even if isn’t the traditional way of dating.
Did you ever feel at times, online dating just wasn’t working for you?(Sometimes, I sure do!) If so, what made you stick with it?
At the time, online dating was just coming to. I was embarrassed to tell people I was on a dating website, but initially, this was one of the first things I’ve done for myself, regardless of what my friends and family thought.

How long were you online dating for, before you met the hubs?
I was on the website for a couple of weeks when he emailed me.
How did you know your hubs was the one? (what specific moment/date, etc.)
One of the things I really appreciate is a love for academia, Christ, and libraries. How was I supposed to find someone so specific in a bar or coffee shop? I was hesitant, but after building a friendship online with the goal of dating, he was what I really had in mind and worth the wait.

I was seeing someone else at the time, and Scott would do the nontraditional things that impressed me. He would buy me DVD’s, video games, rather than expensive roses, or cheesy stuffed animals. Instead of an expensive night out, he would host themed dinners at his place instead. Not only was he smart, but he was so creative!

Did you feel you had a special connection to your hubs b/c he chose the online dating route as well (besides other reasons of course)?
Yes. There is this idea that online dating is for awkward, shy people, but Scott and I were just really busy people at the time who knew what we wanted and didn’t want to deal with the hustle and bustle of bars, coffee shops, and awkward first dates.

Do you feel that the online dating world has changed since you’ve last been a part of it? If so, in what way(s)?
Yes! I think there are more options to websites, and more people! It’s more accepted now and there are more themed websites than just general dating websites.
If you could give one piece of great advice to those who are still out there searching for ‘the One’, like me, what would it be?
Know what you want, don’t settle because of frustration.

I think online dating takes a lot of discipline, and a certain level of emotional maturity. I’ve seen friends on both ends succeed and get their hearts broken because they couldn’t move on and meet the next person. I think you have to be able to have detachment.

If it doesn’t work out, no problem, learn from it and move on. There is a right person looking for you, too.

Does not her words make you smile? And how amazing is the timing of this post? When you’re down in the dumps, bloggy friends are there to the rescue – love you tons Diana!

– OH AND ONE MORE THING –

Bloggy Friends Are Awesome!
To my readers: thank you so very much for leaving such endearing and sweet comments in my last post. The bloggy world is awesome bc of the people who are in it – luv YOU- XOXO!


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