I vowed to keep my eyes peeled for my one and only perfect, dream lover — the man who would sweep me off my feet and love me as no one else ever had, my soul mate.”
Miranda asks Char, “Has he even proposed to you yet?”. Char responds, “No, but it’s beschert!”
According to Wikipedia, Beshert is “a Yiddish word that means “destiny”. It is often used in the context of one’s divinely foreordained spouse or soul mate, and thus has romantic overtones.”
Once, when I had been dating a Jewish guy, this exact SATC episode happened to be on TBS while him & I were in the midst of a heated text-fight. In an effort to put a fizzle to the abbreviated curses & punctuated faces, I texted:
Of course I had googled for the definition before texting it. I was hoping the Jewish guy would be uber-impressed with my Judaic linguistic skill-set.
HE: ‘Not today. And stop watching Sex & the City.’
Damn those TBS SATC reruns that everyone & their mother has seen already at least 3x!
Know what I mean? Or am I crazy?
“Beshert,” I said confidently. Two weeks later, he dumped me. OK … screw beshert.
It was around this time that I started to get a hunch that this whole “soul mate” thing may be a bunch of bull. Maybe all that I was “meant to be” was “alone forever.” The thought terrified me, but even with my doubts, I chose to keep the faith that “the one” was coming.”
I truly believe that connecting with someone should be -in some way- on all levels: emotional, mental & physical and maybe even spiritual. And I do believe that when you connect with someone who is special (whatever your definition of that is), it can feel as though you have met your ‘soul mate’.
But what happens when you’re with someone, you think this person is your soul mate, then the relationship ends and you’re left wondering…
Is there really such a thing as a soul mate – or in this case, ‘beshert‘?
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13 thoughts on “Single Girl Research: The Soul-Mate Syndrome”
I love this post!!
I totally agree that connecting with someone on all levels would be the perfect way to go. If only certain men would look deeper than what's on the surface.
Connecting with someone is the key that unlocks the door to the mystery room of soul matedness. 🙂 No, really, it is! Connecting intellectually and emotionally, and then physically and spiritually (often the latter is an extention of a really good former) just epoxys you to that other person.
Very interesting phenomenon and weel-written exploration!
The girl in me agrees with you, but the social scientist in me says that attraction is scientific: repeated exposure and perceived similarity. With that criteria, we can believe that anyone is our soul mate! LOL
I don't know if one person can be all things to another.
I love my hubby, but he doesn't fill every part of my life. Friends and family sometimes make up the parts he may lacking. However, I can't imagine not having him by my side in 30+ years.
He makes me laugh, believes in me and believes in himself.
At the end of the day, I want him to cheer me on and respect me. I don't think I want him to be with me when I buy shoes. 🙂
Yes there is such thing as a soulmate! That perfect match that will fulfill your every need physically and emotionally! Unfortunately, the odds of you meeting your soulmate are about a billion to one! MG, I am working on something but won't be around much on Saturday!
I love that ep!!
I do believe in soulmates, but I think that people may have more than one…
I'm going to be the mean ole skeptic here. I don't believe in soulmates. I'm seeking a pattern. Someone to make my life more enjoyable (and if I don't find him I'm perfectly capable of enjoying it on my own). Soulmates are for fairy tales.
I can say that I connected more with the hubs in a few months than I ever did with the ex in almost a decade. I would like to think that it was meant to be with us, but who knows for sure?
I dont know girl…I hope so…???
I am dying on how he called you out "and stop watching SATC" LOL I would have been doing the same thing as you!
They say when ya know, ya know…ya know? 🙂
I have lovely soul mate. He saved my life:)
I am not sure I believe in soul mate anymore… maybe one day my views will change. Interesting and well written!
I think we should all stop watching SATC. It's making us crazy. Currently, I've been thinking who my "Big" is and someone who might be more of an "Aiden". Now, I don't have an actual relationship with either, currently. Just potential, initial dating stuff. me = crazy.
Love the post 🙂