Dear Midtown Girl,

I’m completely devastated. My boyfriend who I’ve dated for the past 4 months and thought who loved me changed his FB status from in a relationship to “single” last night. He didn’t even tell me he wanted to break up, he just told me he ‘needs some time to get his life together’ and that he still wants to see me. Why would he immediately change his status like this? I don’t even know if I should text him about this or call him. What do I do??

Ugh, I feel your pain doll. I was dating a guy for a few months and thought he might be the ‘one’. We talked every day, multiple times a day and saw each other all the time. I totally fell for him. Then one day, he got laid off and everything changed. I told him I would be there for him and he told me  ‘I need some time to get my life together’. Exactly what your boyfriend did. He still ‘wanted to see me’ but felt that he couldn’t give me what I wanted at the time.

Fact is, when a guy tells you this it means he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, for whatever reason. He has no problem ‘seeing you’ but anything more serious is not in his mindset right now. Your now ex changing his facebook status to single might hurt a lot right now, but he was upfront about how he feels & at least gave you closure (many guys don’t). IMO, hide his updates (or even de-friend him, no need to be friends with exes) and keep your mind & heart open to dating someone new.  

Dahlings, feel free to email me your Ask MG questions or leave them in the comments below. <3