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SGR: Cosmo’s "How to be a Man Magnet"

3 Mar, 2010 | Single Girl Research

This article reminded me of an experience I had years ago…

Back in my I-banking days, a male co-worker and I used to go out for cocktails during week nights after a hectic 12 hour work day. At the time, he was jumping in & out of an unhealthy relationship, so when we would go out to lounges/bars, I would end up taking the role of “wingwoman“.

According to this article, a “wingwoman” is defined as: a girl who helps guys meet chicks in bars by posing as the guys’ platonic female friend.

In my case, I wasn’t posing as his friend, I really was one! But the author here actually worked as a part-time wingwoman. Apparently “wingwoman services are available in many cities, including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and Saint Louis.”

Holy crap..who knew???

Cosmo’s – “How to Be a Total Man-Magnet“
By Christie Griffin – source

Wingtip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.

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Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

MG: TRUE. One time my guy friend had his eye on this one cutie in the crowd. Unfortunately, she was surrounded by a sorority-like entourage and he became totally intimidated. Later on that eve, while dabbing on some gloss in the ladies room, I had bumped into the girl my guy friend was interested in. While chatting up lip-gloss shades, I mentioned to her how my guy friend thought she was adorable.

After wards, she started up a convo with him!! Aren’t I awesome??

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SGR: Glamour’s "Ten Things Your Man Never Needs to Know"

23 Feb, 2010 | Single Girl Research

And speaking of guys..

I am sure I have made the mistake of TMI while having convos with a guy during the early stages of courtship. So what better way to figure out what one should or shouldn’t say with -

Glamour’s
“10 Things Your Man Never Needs to Know“
by Ayana Byrd - article source

The number of guys you slept with.

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LOL!!! Do guy’s really ask this question? Uhm, let’s put it this way – either change the subject or keep the number very, VERY low.

What happened that time you got food poisoning.

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If a guy really likes/loves you and is bothered by one of your not so pleasant experiences- I would question how much of your time he’s really worth.

Where you learned your signature sex move.

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A while back, one of my gf’s tried to work things out with her Ex. She said she had to end the re-hashed relationship soon after, when he started trying out his “new moves” on her.

Signature moves = signature hoe.

That no matter how happy you are, you still pine for your ex—especially sexually.

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Awwww – time to take a break from dating/new bf’s, if your Ex is still on your mind…no need to drag the past into the present!

Mustache bleaching (not to mention what happens when your bikini waxer takes a long vacay).

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There are some things that were meant to be private. Not everything has to be shared…p.s. guys & leg stubble are enemies, so whether you’re dating, in a serious relationship or married, try to keep the limbs fuzz-free (esp. in the winter season).

That every once in a while you snoop around his e-mail, call log and/or browser history—just to see what he really thinks of you.

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Ya. I would never do this, in general. Why? Bc I wouldn’t want a guy doing this to me.

I had this happen to me by crazy stalker ex’s bc they were either psycho, insecure, and/or cheaters. Stay AWAY from MG’s stuff!!!

Your best sex—unless, of course, it was with him.

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Guys have an ego, especially when it comes to this subject. So if he’s not your “best”, don’t bring up the subject. Bonus points if you make him feel like he’s the best at something else…you know, like at driving, fixing things, choosing fabulush restaurants…whatevz!!

That “Braceface” was the nicest of the nicknames you had in elementary school.

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I wouldn’t mind sharing some of my horrific junior high school stories with a bf. Seriously, if he has a prob with my past, then he can go be a part of it as well. Holler.

Just how hot you think his friend is. Nothing good can come of his worrying that you’re seeing his best bud’s face in bed and not his.

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What kind of Skankity-skank would do this??? Ick.

That you once hooked up with your best guy friend.

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Who cares?? It’s in the past, but seriously…I would keep convos about your sexual past to a minimum.

Besides, Good girls always get the guy...right?

kissies,

p.s. – Urban Signals posted the ABC News clip on FB!!! I will figure out how to put it on MG or my YouTube tom;-)

p.p.s – Date Night Outfit post on Friday, XOXO

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Dating 2.0: Find Love in Real Time with Urban Signals!

9 Feb, 2010 | Fashion Tech, Online Dating World, Single Girl Research

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I had the opportunity to attend the Urban Signals‘ launch party held downtown (thank you for the invite Jordana!!). The launch party was a fabulush hi-tech soiree filled with beautiful people and a flirtatious ambiance.

But…what was even more fabulush, was the Urban Signals Application itself.

What is Urban Signals?

Urban Signals is a social networking, location-based mobile application that allows you to see people around you, if they’re available, interested and ready to meet up – right there on the spot.

How does it work?

Urban Signals’ innovative platform leverages the benefits of online dating, while integrating social, dating and gaming elements that encourage spontaneous connection between singles. Urban Signals broadcasts a user’s location with the application’s unique radar. The radar shows users the location, mood and status of other singles of interest that are nearby. Similar to online dating, these singles are determined by the user’s preferences.

Give MG an example, please!

A woman interested in men between the ages of 25-40 will only be notified when other users of interest to her, are in her area. She can then learn more about them by viewing profiles that offer just enough details to inform, intrigue and encourage further action. “Signals” are then exchanged between users to say hello, express interest, or meet up if they share a mutual interest or attraction.

Sounds Intriguing!
Who is the creative genius behind Urban Signals?

From Founder and CEO Aubree Nichols: “Urban Signals began as an observation I continued to witness on New York’s city streets…the problem of missed connections. I didn’t know what the answer was, but I knew it would have to break down that ‘urban armor’ that discourage singles from approaching someone they found attractive or intriguing.”

I want to test this out.

How much does it cost & where can I get it?!?!

Urban Signals is a free download available now for iPhone and iTouch customers, on the iTunes store. All new users are given a 1-month trial of unlimited Signals to learn how to navigate the application. After 30 days, ‘Unlimited Signals’ packs can be purchased monthly for $4.99 per month. source

For more info, please visit the site -
www.urbansignals.net
Download HERE

Ok. It’s free to download & to use for one month. As soon as Verizon gets iPhones, I plan on giving this app a test drive

p.s. I was not paid to write about this, I just think it’s pretty damn innovative.

So, dahlings…what are your thoughts/opinions on Urban Signals??? Would you consider using it?

kissies,

p.s. – Tonight is the Fashion 2.0 Social Media Awards!!! So excited to see which Fashion brands win for their exceptional marketing/branding efforts via various social media outlets.

Hoping the snowstorm in NYC won’t be too overwhelming & thankful this event is being held in a venue only a block away from my apt – YAY X 100!

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Single Girl Research: "8 Relationship Rules to Retire"

28 Jan, 2010 | Single Girl Research

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How about if you & I take a stroll through Glamour’s “8 Relationship Rules to Retire” and decide which rules should stay and which ones need to go…

“8 Relationship Rules It’s Time to Retire”

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1. Relationship Rule to Retire: Wait for the guy to call you.

My fabulous & newest bestie, Jordana of Clutch22, recently gave me the bestselling book, “He’s Just Not Into” for research on a project I am working on (besides Project Relationship, that is).

Even though the movie adaptation annoyed me to high hell, the book was very…helpful. It’s always good to get a guy’s input, bc only guys know what guys really mean.

So in the book, co-author Greg says -

“When men want you, they do the work. I know it sounds old school, but when men like women, they ask them out.”

See, how simple is that!? I’ll take old school any day.

2. Relationship Rule to Retire: Lie about your busy weekend schedule so he’ll (theoretically) want to go out with you even more.

I never got this whole “pretending to be busy” thing anyway, so I say kill this rule. In reference to the book above, according to Greg, when guys say they are busy it translates to this –

“The word “busy” is a load of crap and is most often used by a**holes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction.”

Ladies, this rule works both ways. Don’t be an a**hole.

3. Relationship Rule to Retire: Call after the obligatory three days.

Ya. This one has to die…like right now. With texting/bbm’s and even Twitter DM’s, there is NO reason anyone needs to wait 3 days. Eff-that.

4. Relationship Rule to Retire: Cook for your man.

What’s wrong with cookin’ for the boy? This is a sweet, endearing gesture and shows that you care about your man. I mean, unless your cooking skills are shit-tay…are they??

5. Relationship Rule to Retire: Let the man (always) pay the bill.

First, men should ALWAYS pay on the first date. Period. He doesn’t always have to pay, but if he makes more money than you, then what’s the prob?

Second, if we keep rule #4 alive, then paying for dinner won’t be an issue.

Problem solved – YAY!

6. Relationship Rule to Retire: Put on a show to impress your date.
Depends on the show…! No seriously, you can be yourself on a date, just a more amped-up version of your fabulush self. No need for crazy stories, name dropping (effing hate when peeps do this, just shut it!), or running down your resume’s bullet points…so ovah this!

Funny, sweet & smart will always work…every time

7. Relationship Rule to Retire: Divide TV time equally.

How much TV do people actually watch that there needs to be “equal TV time”…the hell, folks? Besides, with DVR & hulu.com, both parties can watch anything at anytime.

Problem solved – YAY, again!

8. Relationship Rule to Retire: Go out alone on a first date.

I guess this works if you are in high school or in college, but as fully grown adults…NO. First dates should be on a one-on-one basis.

MG deems this rule shall STAY ALIVE FOREVER x 100.

kissies,

Dahlings – I am in the middle of ze WordPress switch, so please bear with any page issues. I am still here & always will be…I heart you dolls tons!!! AND

An Invitation from thatsLadyLike.com for my fabulush West Coast/SF dolls!!!

Hosts: Ladylike x Adapt Clothing
Who: You, who happens to be 21+
Where: 111 Minna Gallery, San Francisco
When: Fri, 1/29/10 from 9-10pm (please arrive early/on time), celebration cont. to 2am
RSVP: free with guestlist before 10pm: info@thatsladylike.com

With special drinks, Ladylike & Adapt goodies, raffle giveaways!
Special “Heart of the City” hoodie release.

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What Guys Like: Cosmo’s "6 Things Guys Notice 6 Seconds After You Meet"

20 Jan, 2010 | Single Girl Research

It’s COSMO time!!!

So…ever wonder what guys notice about you immediately when you first meet them? Well, wonder no more, dolls!

Cosmo breaks down what the darling gents pay attention to, as soon as they set their eyes on us…

Cosmo’s “The 6 Things Guys Notice 6 Seconds After You Meet”
by Ky Henderson – source

1. Your Smile

Does it seem sweet and genuine? Does it seem awkward and forced? Does it seem like you ate a sesame-seed and parsley salad for lunch based on what’s lodged between every single one of your teeth?

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2. Your Hair

Guys have no idea what split ends are, and if you mention roots, they just think of the band. But they do look to see if your hair looks 1. soft and 2. as though it would smell good. So don’t request “The Gosselin” at the salon, and wash it every so often. That’s all guys ask.

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3. Your Cleavage

Newsflash: Dudes like to look at your chest. Now, that’s not to say they think all women should unbutton their shirts to their bellybuttons at funerals. (Though really, who are guys to judge?) But they will notice how you’re showing off what you’ve got.

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4. Your Makeup

If you’re wearing so much makeup that it looks like you’ve painted an entirely new face on top of your actual face, guys will wonder if you’re trying to cover up some bizarre deformation — or if you’re Gotham City’s most dangerous criminal mastermind.

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5. Your Skin

You know that blemish you’ve been obsessing over all day because it’s so huge? Chances are guys won’t even notice. What will they notice? If you look like a jaundiced Oompa-Loompa because of overenthusiastic tanning.

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6. Your Bag

Are all women who haul around big purses — in other words, cavernous rucksacks stuffed full of old receipts, emergency sweaters, and half-used bottles of hand sanitizer — high maintenance? Maybe not. But guys will go ahead and assume they are anyway.

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Dahlings – what do you think is the 1st thing a guy notices about you?

kissies,

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Single Girl Research: Cosmo’s "8 Dates He’ll Remember Forever"!

13 Jan, 2010 | Single Girl Research

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It’s Cosmo Time!!!

Here are some unconventional date ideas from Cosmo that will give your guy a date to remember! Let’s hope in a good way, lol…

Cosmo’s “8 Dates He’ll Remember Forever”

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1. The Date: Rent a Vespa and Go for a Ride

Why He’ll Love It: Your guy will feel like a badass on two wheels and you’ll have the perfect excuse to wrap your arms around him.

What to Wear: Channel Kristen Stewart and wear a leather jacket, skinny jeans, biker boots, and a helmet.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: After your joyride, head back to your place and take off everything…except the motorcycle boots.

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2. The Date: Take Him to a Classic Rock Concert

Why He’ll Love It: He’s been dying to see Aerosmith, Bob Dylan, or Cheap Trick since he was a kid — and you’ll be the girl who made his dream happen. If his favorite band isn’t touring in your city, find a local paper and pick out an up-and-coming band you both want to check out.

What to Wear: Put on a vintage concert T-shirt, ripped jeans, and Converse sneakers or ballet flats so you can rock out without getting blisters on your feet.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Grab his hand and sneak down to the very front row before the band comes back on stage for their encore. He’ll love being thisclose to rock legends.

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3. The Date: Score Tickets to See a Basketball Game

Why He’ll Love It: Whether it’s a pro team or his high school alma mater, watching a fast-paced game of hoops will get his adrenaline pumping.

What to Wear: Leave the jerseys for the players to wear and sport a sexier outfit in the team’s colors.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Make a bet about how much your team will win by and tell him what you plan to do to him when you claim victory.

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4. The Date: Take a Boxing Class

Why He’ll Love It: You’ll score major points for indulging his sporty side and rev him up for later by throwing a few playful punches his way.

What to Wear: Put your hair up and slip into yoga pants, a sporty top, and big red boxing gloves.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Pin your guy down on the ground so you are lying on top of him and whisper that this is just a preview of the showdown you’re planning for later.

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5. The Date: Head to a Shooting Range

Why He’ll Love It: Even though he’s just shooting a paper target, your guy will be totally turned on by the feeling that he could, in theory, kill and cook his own dinner.

What to Wear: Pair a chic flannel shirt with your boots and jeans, but leave a few of the top buttons undone to keep him from spending too much time staring at the bull’s-eye.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Don’t just watch him shoot, get your own gun and make him watch you ace your target.

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6. The Date: Go to a Beer and Cheese Tasting

Why He’ll Love It: There will be beer. Enough said.

What to Wear: Lace leggings and knit minidress with booties is sexy but not over the top.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Use the tip of your tongue to lick beer foam from your lip, then say, “You’re next.”

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7. The Date: Take Him to See The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Why He’ll Love It: This flick has a legendary cult following of fans who dress up in costume to watch the movie at midnight. He’ll brag to his friends that seeing the movie was your idea, and you’ll earn a license to take him to see as many rom-coms as you want for the rest of the month.

What to Wear: From the sexy costume you wore last Halloween to an all-black outfit with above-the-knee boots, anything (and everything) goes.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Sneak in a flask filled with booze and tell him you’ll only share if he promises to go home with you.

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8. The Date: Go to a National Park

Why He’ll Love It: Taking a break from the distractions of the city will be refreshing for both of you and he’ll get to show you how he earned his fire-building badge.

What to Wear: Hiking boots, bright-colored cords, and a sexy cami underneath a sweater so you can easily strip down when the fire heats up.

The Bad Girl Move to Make: Start by telling him a ghost story that’s obviously about the two of you and turn it into one of your sexual fantasies.

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Dahlings: which date do you think would be the most memorable for a guy (and you, of course!)…?

Midweek kissies,

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Cosmo’s "10 Dating Truths You Can’t Ignore"!

2 Dec, 2009 | Single Girl Research

Sooo…

Years ago, I used to be an avid Cosmopolitan reader (magazine not website).

But, with all the different life style/dating/relationship portals online, there are tons of places to get info!

So, when I saw the Cosmo article-slide show “10 Dating Truths You Can’t Ignore”, describing various male dating patterns, I forgot how much…I Love My Cosmo!!

“10 Dating Truths You Can’t Ignore”
By Holly Eagleson
Source: Cosmopolitan.com

Truth #1: You’ll regret that “Just wanted to make sure you got my last message” follow-up to an e-mail, text, or voicemail. (LOL – I’ve totally done this before!!)

Truth #2: If you don’t feel comfortable having a conversation with a guy about sex — especially condoms — you shouldn’t be getting busy with him. (Exactly.)

Truth #3: If a man breaks up with you out of the blue, the out-of-the-blue part is really only on your end. (I guess…wait, what?)

Truth #4: Just as it’s best to wait to drop the L-bomb until your man does, let a guy change his Facebook status to “in a relationship” before you do. (Not thaaat into FB, thanks!)

Truth #5: No woman in a healthy long-term relationship has ever said, “Gee, I really wish I’d slept with my man sooner.“ (I guess…wait, what?) LOL...

Truth #6: Keeping a change of clothes at work in case of an emergency walk of shame isn’t optimistic behavior…it’s career-savvy. (Uhm…hoe?!)

Truth #7: When a guy repeatedly refers to his exes as “crazy,” “psycho,” or “sluts,” he will use those same words against you one day. (Totally dated a guy that did this too. Wonder if he now describes me as psycho…whatevz, Douche!)

Truth #8: If a relationship feels like too much work after the first month, it’ll be 10 times harder a year from now. (it’s called a shit-tay relationship – Get.Out.Now.)

Truth #9: A guy who rates you or other girls as a number from 1 to 10 is a loser, even if he gives you a 10. You’re a woman, not county fair livestock. (Some guy just yelled a number out at me as I walked out of Daffy’s the other day.. WTF is wrong with some dudes? NOT HOT.)

Truth #10: A guy who talks about how skilled he is in the sack is like a man who brags about his money. Either way, he ain’t got it. The kind of man you want to be with knows that actions speak louder than words. And thankfully, there are plenty of those types out there! (Where? I kid of course, lol!)

Have you dahlings ever experienced any of the above “Dating Truths”???

kissies,

p.s. Thank you to my recent SIMC darling Jaime from La vie…J’aime. I won her giveaway and just received it!!

Love everything in the package, Jaime – especially the super pretty Vera Bradley Desk Planner – totally needed one too!! XOXO