Dear MG,

My Ex & I broke up recently and I feel like everything in my life is falling apart. You know that feeling where you’re in a hole and are never going to get out. That’s how I feel right now. My friends & family have been supportive, but all I really want to do is talk to my Ex. Not get back together (I think), just to get some of this misery off my shoulders. 

When I broke up with my Ex after being w. him for 7 years, I thought I would never be able to get over it. Here are the things I did to get over my ex (in compassionate, MG bullet-point form):

  • As soon as we broke up, I started online dating, not really to date, but to try and get out socially for the sake of my sanity.
  • I had to make new friends since I spent most of my time with him (he never wanted to go out, so we barely had a social life).
  • I made sure to keep my social calendar booked and to not cancel out on plans with friends no matter how depressed I felt.
  • I occasionally caved in and called my Ex, which in turned led to the same arguments & stress that led to the break-up in the first place.
  • I cried. I cried a lot. Espesh after 1am, I would sit in the corner of my apt playing the most depressing music on repeat and just cried my heart out. Every time I cried, I felt a little better until my cries turned to frowns and then those frowns into valued life reflections.
Let yourself go through these break-up stages doll, you will get to a better place soon. It just takes time, I promise.

Dahlings, feel free to email me your Ask MG questions or leave them in the comments below. <3