Tips on Writing an Online Dating Email (plus good & bad examples!)

Written by on Monday, May 24th, 2010 with 3 comments

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I get tons of emails asking for tips on how to write online dating emails. So, what better way to answer them than in a post* on MG!

*Certain deets have been changed to protect the ridiculous.

BAD:

Hi,
My Name Is Jeff
I Live In Manhattan – Downtown
Was Born In Queens, NY
One Of Four Kids, Have Brothers
I Manage A Consulting Company
I Am Also A Guitar Player And Love To Play Guitar
I Enjoy The Most When I Can Play For Friends & Family.
I Love Trying New Restaurants.
I Enjoy Reading Food And Music Magazines.
I Try To Work Out At Least 3 Times A Week
I Love To Travel, Been To South America, ,
the Shore of New Jersey, Italy, Far East, Mexico
I Enjoy The Theater, Movies And Going To Clubs To Dance
I Have A Boat (FREEDOM) & Spend Lots Of Time Hanging Out In The Sun!!!
I Am Looking For A Friend, Love & Soul Mate
I Am A Kind & Considerate Person
I Believe That A Women Is 1st & Foremost & Should Be Treated That Way!
I Would Love To Talk & Hear More About You
Looking Forward To Hearing From You
Have A Great Day!!!!
Sincerely,
Jeff
P.S. – This Email Looks Real Generic & I Do Not Disagree, But No Matter How I Twist & Change It, Still Comes Up Looking Generic! -Jeff.

BAD (2nd email):

Hey,

So, what does a man have to do to get your attention and maybe even a conversation out of you?

Get over yourself.

Seth

GOOD:

Dear MG,

I noticed from your profile that we have quite a few things in common. Like you, I’m a foodie and enjoy trying out new restaurants in the city. Do you have any new favorites?

I moved into the city 2 years ago (from Chicago). I live downtown and love it here. How long have you lived in the city?

I have to say your picture caught my attention, you look beautiful. Let me know if you would like to chat, would be great to learn more about you.

Best,

Richard

So, why is the GOOD email…GOOD?

“Richard” did the following, and so should you (both guys & girls):

  1. Point out something that the two of you have in common from his/her profile (which means you actually read some of it).
  2. Write just a few brief & simple things about yourself without sounding arrogant or conceited.
  3. Ask a question about his/her interests.
  4. Give a sweet compliment without sounding too forward or overly sexual.
  5. End the email with a question, that way opening up an opportunity for a future email response.

And of course, always SPELL CHECK :->

kissies,

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