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So, I ended up choosing option #2: Fabulous Soiree hosted in my gf’s townhouse apartment on the UWS for New Year’s Eve, for 2 reasons:

1. I had already promised my gf I would go; &
2. She said I HAD to meet this special fellow that she invited as well.

Done.

Ok, so what did I end up wearing???

MG’s ‘New Year’s Eve’ Outfit:
Cute black silk tunic dress, Dolce & Gabbana OTK grey suede boots

Why boots? I have no idea…my apt was cold, I threw them on and poof - they felt right.

Anywho – I had called for car service early that day bc catching a cab anytime during NYE is virtually a nightmare. Car came around 9pm and driver took me to the UWS.

Did you dahlings know, the air feels 10x cleaner on the UWS than it does in Midtown? With it’s tree-lined streets and clean, wide sidewalks, it was a pleasant place to be (for the eve, not forever – eff that).

When I get to gf’s townhouse, I could see that her soiree was in full celebratory mode from the gleaming lights shining through her bay window.

Gf buzzed me in and as soon as I walked into her apt, I could smell her famous mint chocolate-chip mini cupcakes – if you’ve never tried, you must dammit (I had 4 that eve!). Dollface greeted me with a fabulous kissie on the cheek and handed me a flute of rose champagne.

After catching up with gf for a few, I let her do her hostess thing and walked over to her unbelievable buffet spread…a foodie lovers delight! Everything was mini-fied: mini crabcake BLT’s, mini pommes frites-filled cones, mini pork loin slices on crostini’s, mini GRILLED CHEESE sandwiches with Gruyere…

For a brief moment, that Golden Girl’s epi where Sophia is at a banquet and starts dumping apps into her bamboo purse, flashed through my mind. But only for a moment, ok.

I chatted up with a few other guests, a lovely woman who was an accessories buyer for Saks (my new bestie? I kid.) and another fellow who was an exec at ABC Carpet & Home (why haven’t I gone into this luscious store yet, I wonder?).

Tan Resty reminded me of that type who preferred to drive something in a vibrant shade of a red and with a girl 15 yrs his junior sitting in the passenger seat.

GF: “This is one of my favorite people, MG.”
ME: “Aww, thank you gf. It’s very nice to meet you, TR.”
TR: “The pleasure’s mine. I can see you being one of my favorite people as well.”

Ahem.

So Tan Resty & I head over to a chaise and start chatting about…HIM. Yup, majority of the convo was revolved around him:“I am working on this…”, “I travelled here…”, “I prefer to go…”. B-LAH, B-LAH.

It’s now around 11:30pm and I officially know almost everything I need to about TR. Luckily for me though, another guest had just come over to greet T.R. While they were catching up, I excused myself and headed straight to…the buffet table, of course! LOL.

I was literally inhaling the mint choc-chip cupcakes & mini grilled cheese’s (yup), when a male guest asks me:

HE: “Are you going leave any cupcakes for me?”

Oh. Damn.

ME: “I know, I look like a piglet. They are sooo delicious though!”
HE: “I’m only kidding. How do you know gf?” (the hostess)

We talk for while, at the buffet table no less and convo was pretty fantastic! A VP for a hedge fund (finance guy-I’m shocked), he was tall, w. dark-hair & eyes, dressed in a white button down shirt under a velvet blazer & in dark trousers…very attractive. And very sweet.

Sweet Hedge Guy and I end up chatting right up until the clock struck Midnight!! I didn’t even realize the time until gf kick-started the 10 second count-down…the time just flew.

SHG & I raise our glasses, toast “chin-chin” and exchange charming smiles. It occurs to me that I kinda just up & left Tan Resty, so I turn around to see if he is still in the same spot…nope!

Tan Resty has occupied a corner of the room and with a small crowd of fans surrounding him, he is motioning his arms wide apart, as if to describe something of enormous size (his ego, I would imagine). My absence has clearly not affected TR, so I continue convo with SHG.

Gf comes over to us to ask if we are enjoying her festivities – of which we totally are – and when she sees TR behind me, she shakes her head and mumbles “forever in the spotlight” then walks over to him to hear what current story he is sharing with the rest of her guests.

It’s getting late. Now 2 am, I’m tired and just want to get out of my OTK boots and into my NM slippers and call it a night. SHG asks:

HE: “How are you getting home?”
ME: “I think I’m gonna call car service bc it’s too cold to wait for a cab. Plus I prob won’t find one now anyway.”
HE: “I think I’m going to head out as well. You said you live in Midtown East right? I live in the UES and can give you a ride if you’d like.”

I like.

ME: “Oh, you drove over here? Ok, if it’s not an inconvenience then…sure!”
HE: “Great!”

Both off us get our coats, and as SHG says his goodbyes to gf, I head over to TR and interrupt his never ending story to say goodbye…

ME: “It was great meeting you TR, Happy New Year!”
TR: “Oh definitely, let’s make plans this week!”

Let’s not.

I walk over to gf, tell her how fabulush her party was and she notices SGH waiting at the door for me…

GF: “Oh, are you guys heading out together?”
ME: “Yes, since SGH lives on the UES, he was nice enough to offer me a ride home.”
GF: “Well isn’t that sweet of him.”

I’m not sure if the sarcasm I sensed from her was real or just the rose champagne taking it’s effect, so I gave gf a hug and told her I would call her the next day.

GF: “Call me when you get home.”

Uhm, okay. Sheesh!?

SHG & I get into his car and during the quick ride back to my apt we speak about things that we love to do in the city and hopes for the new year.

We get to my apt and as I say goodnight to SHG I see a text from gf. I’m about to read the text when SHG says, “can I see your cell for a second?” and takes my phone.

He starts to dial a number (wtf?) and then his cell starts to ring. Ohhh, I get it.

HE: “I just wanted to see if my cell still works.” (Smiles)
ME: “Uh, huh. Very smooth!”

It was cheesy, but at the same time still cute, so whatevz…

I get out of the car and as I head up to my apt I read & respond to gf’s text -

GF: Where are you?
ME: I’m home, why?
GF: Where is SHG?
ME: I’m assuming he’s on his way home, he just dropped me off. Is everything ok??? What’s wrong chickie??
GF: Oh ok. SHG told you he was ENGAGED, right?

No, actually…he didn’t.

Happy Monday kissies,

I have no idea if this dude came up to me just bc he wanted talk to me or if he genuinely needed another person’s perspective. I decided to believe the latter…

ME: “OK, what is it?”
HE: “My best friend is going to ask his girlfriend to marry him. Today. They’ve been dating for a long time.”

He pauses for a sec and says -

“Thing is, I KNOW he shouldn’t marry her.”

ME: “Well, why not?”
HE: “She’s not a good person. She’s a liar and is mean to him and just an overall terrible person. What should I tell him?”
ME: “Don’t tell him anything.”

I’m almost positive this guy has given his opinion about his friends gf to him in the past (it’s too hard not to), but doing so right before his friend is about to propose? IMO, that’s just not a good idea…

HE: “Even if I know she’s not right for him???”
ME: “Yea, bc it’s his relationship and he has to make the decision on whether or not he wants to be with her.”
HE: “But, I’m his best friend. If I know it’s not the right thing to do, shouldn’t I help him out?”
ME: “I know how you feel. But if he hasn’t realized – after being with her all this time – that she’s not a good person, you telling him that she isn’t probably won’t change his mind. And he just might get mad at you for making his ‘special’ day, not so special for him.”

“Besides, he’s an adult. He has to decide if she is the right one for him.”

I started to walk away after telling him this bc, since I had just come from the dentist, half my face was still numb & immobile. If you could see the look on this guy’s face while I was talking to him with just half my face moving – it was PRICELESS, LOL!

In any case, I could tell he was still confused as I walked away… and I kinda felt bad for him bc it’s a tough thing to see your friend potentially make a huge mistake.

So…would you tell your friend your true feelings regarding their current partner/potential spouse?

Sounds really simple right? But I really don’t know what goes on in a guy’s head, so I figured ‘why not look up reasons as to why some guys cheat’.

You see, cheating was the main reason why my Ex-Ex & I broke up over 3 yrs ago & what would eventually lead to Midtown Girl. By the time Ex-Ex had cheated, our relationship had already become a pure shit-fest. We had no communication & the mutual disdain had the both of us avoiding each other at all cost. How lovely, right!!!

Moving on…I found this article: “9 Reasons Why Men Cheat” and thought I’d share it with you, my faithful dahlings:

9 Reasons Why Men Cheat…Is He Being Unfaithful to You?
Source: By The Lifescript Editorial Staff
Published October 04, 2009

Why They Say They Cheat-

Here are 9 excuses guys give for doing the extramarital mambo:
source: here @ lifescript.com

1. She ain’t what she used to be: Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. “If she got lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” Santagati says.

And men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still be demanding perfection from her. “It’s the typical double standard.” (People should be fit to look good for themselves, never for someone else!)

2. No one loves a ball buster: Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. “She’s like a mosquito,” Santagati says. “He doesn’t want to have sex with her; he wants to [swat her away].” The more viable option: hot sex with a more “understanding” woman. (Not sure if “ball busters” are necessarily not understanding, they’re just plain annoying. Annoying peeps suck – just GO.)

3. She just doesn’t “get” me: Men who cheat say they don’t feel understood by their mate. But it’s not always the woman. Mostly they’re either angry or afraid to connect. (Yea, I don’t “get” this one either…)

4. It’s the thrill: Most guys who have affairs are getting in touch with their inner caveman: They like to play with fire. By keeping surprise and sizzle in your sex life, a woman can keep the home fires burning so hot that her man won’t have any reason to cheat. Solomon says men also cheat because of fear, loneliness or anger. “The betraying partner’s failure to deal with these feelings is what causes him to be unfaithful,” he says. (So they are angry cavemen…whaaa?)

5. Blame it on the “hunter.”: Often, married men who cheat can’t quite explain their motivation. They just find themselves compelled to bust out of their day-to-day routine in search of something new. (Ever try Wii? Bowling & Tennis are my favs…try it fellas!)

6. Biology, baby: “It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible,” Santagati says. “Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn’t matter if you’re Jessica Alba or Sienna Miller, we become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types. We’re only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid.” (Doesn’t this cancel out #1?! I’m confused…)

But Juliet Williams, associate professor of women’s studies at UCLA disagrees. “No matter how stunningly high the number of male cheaters, we know it’s not biological,” she says. “There are still a higher percentage of men who are monogamous.” (Why thank you for clarifying, Juliet!)

7. It’s just sex: For most guys, sex and love are two entirely different things. “We really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women.’ We separate it in our brains,” Santagati says. (That’s kinda…sick.)

8. Not tonight, dear.: Let’s face it. Men want more sex than women. (Uhm.Says.WHO?)

9. Because we can: Ok, we’re guys, remember? It’s hard to resist temptation, especially when it’s at our fingertips. Thanks to the Internet, it’s easier for men to cheat anytime, anywhere… while they’re watching TV or on the laptop in bed next to their sleeping wives. (DAMN – this one is Effed Up X 100! And scary as hell.)

Forgive and Forget?

Whether your man is having sex online or in a hotel room, should you take him back?

Oh.Hell.No. Your thoughts, lovelies?

kissies,

So, when I saw the Cosmo article-slide show “10 Dating Truths You Can’t Ignore”, describing various male dating patterns, I forgot how much…I Love My Cosmo!!

“10 Dating Truths You Can’t Ignore”
By Holly Eagleson
Source: Cosmopolitan.com

Truth #1: You’ll regret that “Just wanted to make sure you got my last message” follow-up to an e-mail, text, or voicemail. (LOL – I’ve totally done this before!!)

Truth #4: Just as it’s best to wait to drop the L-bomb until your man does, let a guy change his Facebook status to “in a relationship” before you do. (Not thaaat into FB, thanks!)

Truth #5: No woman in a healthy long-term relationship has ever said, “Gee, I really wish I’d slept with my man sooner.“ (I guess…wait, what?) LOL...

Truth #6: Keeping a change of clothes at work in case of an emergency walk of shame isn’t optimistic behavior…it’s career-savvy. (Uhm…hoe?!)

Truth #7: When a guy repeatedly refers to his exes as “crazy,” “psycho,” or “sluts,” he will use those same words against you one day. (Totally dated a guy that did this too. Wonder if he now describes me as psycho…whatevz, Douche!)

Truth #8: If a relationship feels like too much work after the first month, it’ll be 10 times harder a year from now. (it’s called a shit-tay relationship – Get.Out.Now.)

Truth #9: A guy who rates you or other girls as a number from 1 to 10 is a loser, even if he gives you a 10. You’re a woman, not county fair livestock. (Some guy just yelled a number out at me as I walked out of Daffy’s the other day.. WTF is wrong with some dudes? NOT HOT.)

Truth #10: A guy who talks about how skilled he is in the sack is like a man who brags about his money. Either way, he ain’t got it. The kind of man you want to be with knows that actions speak louder than words. And thankfully, there are plenty of those types out there! (Where? I kid of course, lol!)