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Do I LOOK like I need a laugh?

28 Oct, 2009 | Single Girl Research

Sooo…

The other day, when I was crossing 34th st & 6th Ave – otherwise known as the Hell Zone, I was accosted by not one, but THREE comedy-show whoring, wannabe Brad Pitt looking, currently in career-transition actors. Or musicians. Whatevaz.

As I side-swept the first 2 and was just about to SideLINE the 3rd, the faux Brad Pitt yelled out to me -

“Oh come on, you look like you could use a laugh!”

I do? Damn & Ouch.

So oddly enough, when I finally got back to my apt later that eve, I turned on the telly and there was…Wanda Sykes!

I’m not too familiar with her performances, but I have caught a few of them and I have to say her comedic timing is def on point!

Her HBO special “Ima Be Me” was on and there were some parts that were effing HIGHlarious. Especially when she goes into deets about Jamie Lee Curtis & her new “Activia” gig – I was dying!

I tried to find that clip but I couldn’t – sawwwy! But I did find a clip of her describing her 1st bikini wax (both front & back) yikes & LOL:

Cause ya know – you guys look like you could use a laugh

kissies,

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Single Girl Research: The Soul-Mate Syndrome

6 Aug, 2009 | Single Girl Research

Is there such a thing as a “soul-mate”?

So…I have a wonderful anonymous reader who sends me weekly, what she calls, Midtown Girl “Articles of Interest”. This week’s AOI is titled:

‘Does soul-mate-ism prevent us from finding true love?’

Article: “Building on my family’s unwavering faith in this beshert thingy — my parents met when they were 17 and my grandparents when they were 16 — I assumed that I, too, would be welcomed into the warm, loving arms of this soul mate phenomenon.

I vowed to keep my eyes peeled for my one and only perfect, dream lover — the man who would sweep me off my feet and love me as no one else ever had, my soul mate.”

Remember that episode of SATC, where Miranda & Carrie find Charlotte’s Jewish Cookbook and while looking through it, they see Char has written “Charlotte York Goldenblatt” all over it?

Miranda asks Char, “Has he even proposed to you yet?”. Char responds, “No, but it’s beschert!”

According to Wikipedia, Beshert is “a Yiddish word that means “destiny”.It is often used in the context of one’s divinely foreordained spouse or soul mate, and thus has romantic overtones.”

Once, when I had been dating a Jewish guy, this exact SATC episode happened to be on TBS while him & I were in the midst of a heated text-fight. In an effort to put a fizzle to the abbreviated curses & punctuated faces, I texted:

ME: ‘Look, no matter what, you are my beshert.’

Of course I had googled for the definition before texting it. I was hoping the Jewish guy would be uber-impressed with my Judaic linguistic skill-set.

His response:

HE: ‘Not today. And stop watching Sex & the City.’

Damn those TBS SATC reruns that everyone & their mother has seen already at least 3x!

It’s not that I really thought he was my soul mate, but sometimes when you are dating someone and things seem to be going well (or not terrible, lol), it’s hard not to feel that maybe the current guy you’re dating…just may be the ‘one’.

Know what I mean? Or am I crazy?

Article: “This time I was positive that Jason was “the one.” Jason and I were laying in bed one night and he turned to me clearly panicked and asked, “You seem so sure about us, how do you know it’s meant to be?”

“Beshert,” I said confidently. Two weeks later, he dumped me. OK … screw beshert.

It was around this time that I started to get a hunch that this whole “soul mate” thing may be a bunch of bull. Maybe all that I was “meant to be” was “alone forever.” The thought terrified me, but even with my doubts, I chose to keep the faith that “the one” was coming.”

Before the relationship with my EX-EX ended, our lives were completely intertwined in every way. Almost every decision I made would be after I had asked him for his advice/input/suggestions. Ultimately I made my own decisions, but I always wanted his opinions on my potential choices. I think I mistook my relying on his input as me being connected to him in a soul mate-ish way.

I truly believe that connecting with someone should be -in some way- on all levels: emotional, mental & physical and maybe even spiritual. And I do believe that when you connect with someone who is special (whatever your definition of that is), it can feel as though you have met your ‘soul mate’.

But what happens when you’re with someone, you think this person is your soul mate, then the relationship ends and you’re left wondering…

Is there really such a thing as a soul mate – or in this case, ‘beshert‘?

Kissies & have a wonderful weekend dahlings,

p.s. – I would like to dedicate this post to Anonymous, for her/his continual efforts in shedding the light on the pursuit of love (and the obstacles that can sometimes get in the way of it!) ;->

p.s.s. – I’ll be posting my 1st giveaway next week!! Make sure to enter, lovelies – XOXO!

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Single Girl Research: Excellent Read, Left Anonomously…

1 Jul, 2009 | Single Girl Research

Sooo, back when my dear Laptop-of-Love crashed, I received some really sweet comments from you dahlings wishing for its quick recovery (even though I have a back-up disc, I am def gonna buy my back-up drive this week, I promised myself – no T. Burch sandals until I get this!!!).

Anywho, I remembered an anonymous reader leaving a comment & link to an excellent article on cnn.com:

Why NOT to Settle in Relationships

Whomever you are – please let me know – I totally related to what this chick was speaking of & I sooo appreciate the thoughtful link – thank you dollface!!

The title itself is why I am still in the dating pool in the first place, not because I am UBER picky…I just don’t want to settle for the sole reason of settling..get what I’m saying???

And what’s so interesting about the article is that she points out how, even when a guy seems great on paper, it doesn’t mean he’s the one. Seems OBVIOUS right? Not really.

Why? Because it’s not uncommon to date our same ‘type’ over & over again. I know I sure have in the past. Sometimes it’s just time to edit what we think our type should be…

“As I slid out of my great-on-paper guy’s bed and tiptoed out the door (shady, I know!), my dread was replaced by relief. Back in my apartment with only my cat for company, I realized that I’d become rather accustomed to being alone and while I wasn’t ecstatic 24/7, I was actually pretty happy. I loved my friends and family (and my kitty!) and I knew I’d be okay if my life stayed the way it was.”

So, at this point, she feels okay with herself as a single chick and doesn’t need someone else to ‘complete’ her…when -

“Of course then six months later I screwed it all up by meeting a great guy who I love to pieces.”

Good for you chickie. Start from the inside – out & things will work out juuust fine.

I hope. LOL!

kissies,

p.s. – Am I the only one who noticed that in Beyonce’s most recent red carpet pics…she did not shave her legs??? WTF & Gross!!

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Decoding Love…Statistically, that is!

2 Jun, 2009 | Single Girl Research

So the other night I get home from a long day and while winding down, I do some channel surfing. I flip thru and hear, “Guys like long hair better than short.”

Ok, back the f* up.

I turn back and see that the Tyra Banks Show has on author Andrew Trees, promoting his book “Decoding Love: Why it takes 12 Frogs to Find a Prince and Other Revelations from the Science of Attraction.“

Huh! Why 12 Drew?

Seeing as I didn’t feel like dishing out more funds for dating blah-blah books (I already got that e-book about “Thinking Like a Guy”, remember?), I searched for some info online regarding this latest guide on the ‘scientific’ search for love, whatevz -

From an interview w. the Author from sundancechannel.com…I know – Sundance, wtf?:

“Seeing as it’s in the title of your book, can you explain the mathematical theory that you’ve got to date 12 people before you find Mr/Ms Right?

It comes from game theory, specifically something called the Dowry Game. Basically, the idea is that you date twelve people and then choose the next person who is better than those first twelve. Statistically, this gives you roughly a 97% chance of ending up with someone in the top 10% of the dating pool. I think this is a liberating finding because it means that you don’t have to date hundreds of people in an endless search for Mr. or Mrs. Right.“

Ah, yea…fascinating stats Drew, but how can you figure that the guys after the 12th will workout until you date them, since you really don’t know what they are like personality/character-wise? Sure, we know what we want on paper…but in real life it’s a little more complicated because the characteristics that usually determine what works and what doesn’t isn’t really statistical…its based on compatibility. Maybe compatibility can be mathematically determined?? Math is soo romantic btw…

Anywho, I still thought, hey maybe this is could be good read. At least for entertainment purposes, right? Wrong.

I found another article from nytimes.com interviewing Drew-boy…

“Mr. Trees (author) extended his sympathy. “New York City women have it the hardest,” he said. “The decks are stacked against them. The demographics are bad, and men don’t want to be with women who are more ambitious than they are.”

You suck Drew. Big-time!

No $$ from me, Mr. Trees!! LOL ;->
kisses,
MG

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Crazy but True…Destiny Cards? Which one are you?

26 May, 2009 | MG Life, Single Girl Research

The other night I was chatting w. gf Eva and she reminded me of our convo about Destiny Cards. She had mentioned the Cards earlier this year and I totally forgot about them!

“The ancient system of Destiny Cards is believed to have originated and used by mystical orders that have been in existence since before Ancient Egypt. It is a combination of numerology, astrology and tarot based on a common playing deck of 52 cards. There is a precise scientific order to these cards and does not use a system of divination. All that is needed is your date of birth.”

Obviously, these are for entertainment purposes only – but fun to find out what your Birth Card says about you. Some of the Birth Cards can mention your possible ‘Karma Cards‘. Karma Cards mean that these individuals have a strong connection with or strong attraction, to you.

To find your Birth Card click here. Scroll to the bottom of the page and then click on your birth date!

Does your Card describe you? Share please!

p.s. – so I texted DB later this eve and…no response – LOL! oh, and apparently under my birth card – he holds one of my ‘Karma Cards’ based on his birth date…freaky again - Whatevz!

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Dating Boot Camp…@ Lord & Taylor???

14 May, 2009 | Single Girl Research

Sooo, I jumped into a cab this morning and while trying to look out the filthy taxi window I heard the word ‘dating’ echo from the half-working TaxiTV. Obv I had to watch the commercial for Lord & Taylor’s attempt at luring more buyers this recession season, with A “Dating Boot Camp Series” -

“Fifth Avenue: 6 – 8 pm Find true love… Boot Camp style! TV personalities and bestselling authors Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are sharing their exclusive four week event series, designed to teach you and your friends everything you need to know about love and dating! Each week learn new tips, and get one-on-one personalized advice from the experts.

WEEK 1: THE MALE MIND REVEALED- Dating 101- The players on the field: Hear from Matt & Tamsen’s Exclusive Man Panel about how guys really think.”

You can view the commercial here

After perusing their their website, I realized – most of the advice they give have been the same advice all of you awesome fellow bloggers have given me – Score for you guys!

Love you tons, my bloggie friends are dating gurus, and I am damn lucky!

xoxo,
MG

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Crazy but True…"Catch Him, Keep Him"

14 Oct, 2008 | Single Girl Research

Have any of you heard of this book? “Catch Him, Keep Him”

I actually set aside a few minutes of my day to read the general break-down of it, and I hate to say this but…I think I like it!! I know, seems gimmicky and some of the bullet points are obvious, but some aren’t…

Maybe it’s time I revamped my Modus Operandi…thoughts?

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