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This pic represents everything I do not want to experience on NYE. And trust me, I have been there (a few times, sigh).

NYE is almost here and if you’re like me, you’re figuring out which of your dresses is sequin-ey enough to wear, which pair of heels will survive a 5 hr eve of dancing & whether or not you should book a car this far in advance bc hailing a cab on NYE in NYC is…brutal.

Anywho, this eve I’ll be with my fav dahling Midtown Chap, BUT celebrating NYE for the last 5 yrs as a single girl (remember this fabulushly ridic NYE eve story), has made me think about what I would do differently if I were still single. Here’s what I came up with…

5 New Year’s Eve Tips For My Single Girls

1. Friends: Make sure you head out to a party with a girlfriend/gay hubs who is truly with you to celebrate a fabulush eve. The last person you want to spend a long, celebratory evening with is someone who is obsessed with finding a cute guy to talk to or is upset that he/she is still single on NYE.

2. Outfit: Dress like you would for a first date –  ever walk out of your apt and see a group of girls ready for a night out in the city dressed like it’s fleet week? No matter what the occasion is, dress to impress bc you never know who you might meet.

3. Outerwear: Wear a gorgeous coat. I know this sounds obvious, but if you saw the nightmare that was #SantaCon, then you totes know what I mean. It’s cold outside. Wear a damn coat.

4. Cell Block: For the guys you have on your “call only when it’s an absolute emergency” list, trust me NYE is not “an emergency”. Change the names of these guys to numbers or letters bc who remembers phone numbers right? This way you’ll bypass that shitty morning after feeling of calling a loser after the clock struck 12.

5. Social Media Sanity: Sharing “Happy New Year’s” on twitter is sweet. Sharing “Looking forward to another year of shitty dates and douchebags” however, is not. After the 3rd (or 4th) glass of bubbly, take a break from the social media world and leave the updating of your fabulous resolutions for New Year’s Day.

Any tips that need to be added to this list? Please feel free to add in the comments below, my lovelies! <3

Former single girl kissies,

Soo…

There’s something I didn’t mention when I wrote about BB a few days ago.

Even though the date was AMAZE x 100, I kinda felt like something was weighing on BB’s mind at various points throughout that eve. I wasn’t sure if it was work – or a girl – but I failed to mention it bc I have a tendency to over-think & analyze EVERYTHING. I was trying not to pay attention to my instincts.

Turns out my instincts were right.

Last week I didn’t hear from BB at all, so I decided to make plans with other peeps bc waiting around for someone to call is not something that I (or any of you dolls, either) should ever do. I went out on a date Wed with a nice guy but…

It totes wasn’t as amaze.

Anywho, Friday comes & I’m getting ready to meet some gf’s. I am still wondering wth happened to BB. So, I text Midtown Boy.

Me: ‘What up, MB.” lol

MB: ‘Hey MG, how is everything?’

Me: ‘Good. Except – I have no idea what’s up with BB. Haven’t heard from him since that amazing date…”

MB: ‘Just text him hello. Then leave it alone.’

So I send BB a text…

“Just wanted to say hi. Hope you had a good week.”

I get…no response. Great & thanks BB. Saturday morn rolls around and I wake up out of no where. I check my cell (which I neurotically keep at the foot of my bed and which is always on silent). I have a new text. From BB -

“Dear Amy,

I hope you had a great week as well. I meant to speak to you: I am sorry to tell you that I have decided to move a step forward with someone else I was dating and go exclusive with her. I am sorry and hope that you don’t feel lead on but it wasn’t clear to me when we met. You are a beautiful and wonderful girl and I would have liked to take things further but it wasn’t meant to be. I wish you all the best.

BB”

Dammit if I wasn’t right.

I share the text with MB. He responds with – ‘At least he didn’t bullshit you.’

At Least.

I shoot a text back to BB…

Me: ‘Thanks for the honesty. Good luck with everything.’

5 seconds later, I get a last text from BB -

BB: ‘Good luck with everything as well. You are an amazing girl.’

kissies,

p.s. – I have a date tom eve. Let’s hope this one will stay SINGLE…lolz. And;

p.s.s. – I will be posting my 1st Designer Date Night video this FRIDAY!! Dahlings – help me pick out which outfit I should wear on my next date! Love you <3

I know you dahlings are prob sleeping….but I had an AMAZE date tonight & I have to ask you dahlings a question….can I just talk about what I am going through & what the situation is without having to have a “subject” or ” theme” to write about???

Can I just go back to what I started blogging about in the first place…to get your thoughts & advice on my Current Stat…??

Please let me know & p.s.- I love you. Period.

kissies,

My stepdad told me about this article from msn.com (maybe as a hint). I thought it would be a good piece to share with my dahling readers & get feedback on the subject…

“Why Less Attractive Men Make Better Mates”

Dahlings…what are your thoughts on “Dating Down” – AGREE or DISAGREE???

kissies,

You know when you’re confused about a situation in your dateship/relationship and you keep repeating the same issue over and OVAH again until your besties say – “Honestly, I just don’t know what else to tell you.”

Two years ago, when I first started MG, I did so bc I was exhausted by telling the same dating stories to each one of my gf’s separately and then putting together all of their responses in order to help me figure out a particular Dating Dilemma. So, by writing a post on my Current Stat, it was more efficient/easier/AMAZE to get advice & help, all in one place.

The reason for BLOGGY LOVE and why bloggers love blogging. PERIOD.

Anywho, one of my long-time bloggy friends – whom I always ask for dating advice – became involved in a serious relationship and I felt it was inappropriate to ask him for advice every time I needed it, which is quite often…OBVS (esp. late in the eve, after a craptastic date..sorry!!!). So when my dear gf Jennine (@thecoveted), sent me a link to this new site, CouplesSpark, I was sooo intrigued!! (p.s – I am not being paid to talk about this – I just thought it was an interesting concept) -

Basically you “post a confict”, “get feedback” & then hopefully “get a conflict resolved”. Sounds pretty straight forward right?! And it’s ANON, so you don’t have to worry about your fav peeps thinking you’re obsessed about a specific situation you’re going through (bc you know you are). Here are some recent topics posted:

So, what do you dahlings think…would you give this a test run???

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This weekend was HIGHlarious.

Besides fam stuff, Sunday was catch up night with an long time gf whose had more bad pickup up lines thrown at her than the Real Housewives’ combined total of botox injections.

The most recent line she’s had to endure: “I’m really drunk. Why don’t you just make it easy for the both of us and just come home with me now.”

DOUCHE.

Anywho, I found this piece in askmen.com on ‘effective’ pick up lines for guys to use on women. Some are actually…good!

Top 10 Effective Pickup Lines

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8 – “Can I interest you in a glass of…?” (def, but please don’t ask to do shots..thanks

kissies,

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You know why??? Because only GUYS know what the hell GUYS think. Like what they really mean when they say “let’s hang out” instead of  ”I’d love to take you to dinner”.

In my early bloggy days, I virtually met a male blogger who often gave me advice via comments on my dating posts. I deemed him Midtown Boy bc he was the 1st guy who ever commented on MG back in 2008. Midtown Boy has since been giving me valuable advice, many times via text/gchat and many times after I had a date and wanted to know what the real deal was with the guy.

Here is a recent gchat convo with MB, which will show you dolls the reason why I heart him for always being there when I need him & why guy friends tell it how it is….

Me:  Hi Midtown Boy!

Midtown Boy:  Hey! What’s new?

Me:  So, remember that guy I had a date with last week?

Midtown Boy:  Yep.

Me:  We met for cocktails & spoke for almost 4 hrs! He called me the next day and we spoke for such a long time. We’re supposed to meet up later this week…

Midtown Boy:  Cool. Sounds like he likes you. Do you like him?

Me: Yes I do. He’s not my normal “type” so I think it’s interesting.

Midtown Boy:  Just go with it and try not to analyze it.

Me:  I know my gf says I do this all the time lol.

Midtown Boy:  He definitely is into you.

Me:  Yea that’s what I think, bc he kept looking at me with that ‘look’. We met at my gf’s wedding, not online so it’s a refreshing change.

Midtown Boy:  Remember that I said that would happen.

Me:  I don’t, what did u say again – tell me!

Midtown Boy:  I said that you would probably end up meeting someone who was NOT on a dating site. That the dating sites were hard to trust people. Really, just don’t question or analyze anything.  Just have fun and let him pursue you.

Me:  You’re right as usual. It’s just super funny how this happened. I will keep u updated of course.

Midtown Boy:  Of course!

Me:  Thank u for always getting back to me when I text you, I really appreciate it – btw how is everything with your girlfriend?

Midtown Boy:  Everything is wonderful.  Marriage is a plan, but not for a while. I got my life back after meeting her.

Me:  You deserve it

Midtown Boy:  Now when you are in love and a happy couple then we can laugh about all of this.

Me:  LOL. Not going to happen, but I’m ok with that. Some people were meant to be single; I think I am one of them!!!

Midtown Boy:  NOOO!  I was 44 before it hit ME!

Me:  If I’m still single at 44, I will prob act like a haggard witch. Or a haggard BITCH. Either/or…lol.

Midtown Boy:  Oh, I think you will be fine.

Me:  I guess I just have to let things happen, right! I am sure I will be fine….I will look at you as inspiration.

Midtown Boy:  I think that you have trust issues and are afraid to give your heart to someone for fear of getting hurt again.

Me:  I don’t know what guys want, so I get confused when they are interested in me bc sometimes guys play games, especially online. I think online dating has somewhat screwed with my head.

Midtown Boy:  I think that you sell yourself short. I think that you do not realize what a catch that you are. I think that you need to let guys pine for you.

Me:  Aww, I heart you tons for saying that.

Midtown Boy:  Make them pursue and call and text.

Me:  I think I’ll try your advice from now on…I have done so for the last 2 and they call me non-stop…only thing is I’m not interested in them.

Midtown Boy:  Just walk the walk and guys will chase you.

Me:  You totally made my day, seriously…I can’t thank you enough. I feel like copying and pasting this message…

Midtown Boy:  Okay.

Me:  Lots of girls do not have great guy friends like u who can give awesome advice.

Midtown Boy:  It is funny because guys always think that women are in control.

Me:  Do they???

Midtown Boy:  Oh Yea!! Guys always feel that they have to win the woman over. If there is no element of chase or struggle then a guy will wonder why it was so easy & then he will feel like he is in control and that is when a guy becomes a douche.

Me:  What female actions, for example, makes a guy think he has control?

Midtown Boy:  If a woman were to call or text and wonder where a guy is all the time or acts jealous when they first meet a guy.

Me:  Gotcha. And how long does this chase have to last? When does it run its course and finally become just about the 2 people?

Midtown Boy:  Like if you find a guy you like, sometimes if he tries to make plans, act like you are not sure if you can because you had something else to do. The chase lasts until real trust and feelings start to develop. If a woman is always available then a guy will feel like she has no other interests but him. I know that when I was younger and dating that women always seemed to have guy friends that they talked about.  I wonder if they were real friends or just jealousy tools…

Me:  Hmm…good point! But I don’t have a lot of guy friends just you.

Midtown Boy:  I guess what I am saying is that if this guy thinks that you are being pursued by others then he will step up his game.

Me:  Hmm, so he won’t think I’m a whore? LOL.

Midtown Boy:  If he thinks that you are so into him that he is in like flint, then he will do as he pleases. You don’t have to be dating, but you can make him wonder. Tell him that you have a call, but don’t tell him who it is, that kind of thing.

Me:  U think? Bc this guy is not a douche type, he’s pretty cool. Plus if he did that I would not like it at all. Dating is so complicated why?

Midtown Boy:  Well, you have to judge for yourself, but if he starts to get the attitude that he is in control then you can do that.

Me:  Ok, sounds like a plan

Midtown Boy:  Basic rule of life….people always want what they feel like they can’t have.

Me:  Totes true Midtown Boy. XOXO.

kissies,

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While apt hunting (for my gf) and later a having brunch & munch in Midtown, am New York‘s front page caught my attention. I can’t remember the last time I picked up a copy of amNY (a free local newspaper) but this issue’s headline was definitely MG material…

On p. 2 of this past wknd’s issue were 2 articles -

1. “Costly Art of the Mate Chase” by Karen Keller: about a 3-day Pickup Dating Conference starting this Friday that costs $377 and  includes ‘pickup practice’ in bars.
2. “My advice to guys: Love is just a tweet away” by Ellis Henican: about the importance of  ’applying up-to-date techniques from the worlds of digital social media & branding’.

I can’t seem to find either article online to link for you lovelies to read, so I’ll just list the tips that were featured in the 1st article.

“Five Tips For Dating Like A Pro”

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1. Forget the New York Mentality – that you can always “trade-up”. If you’ve found someone great, it’s mission accomplished.
2. Don’t talk too much – ask plenty of questions and please, relax.
3. Pick unconventional date places – where touching your date is natural (ex. comedy club, park).
4. For guys – talk louder than you think you need to. Nerves often make men speak too softly.
5. For gals – don’t expect guys to pay for expensive dates in the beginning. Some resent that.

Dahlings, what are your thoughts on these pro-dating tips???

kissies,

Did you know…a few years ago, a gf of mine was engaged to a CEO of a hedge fund. Their Park Ave apt was RIDIC, their many vacations were of lux-status, they had a fabulous set of friends, the list goes on & on. It really seemed as though she was living the fairy tale life.

Until she received a call from a 19 y.o. Eastern European girl asking to speak to her fiance.

Apparently, all those “work” trips that had him traveling so often to Europe ended up being more of the pleasure variety. Anywho, after they broke up, she moved out of their lush pad into a small 1 bedroom on UES. She did a fantastic job of putting her life back together – scored a fabulous TV gig, met a guy on the show that is now her husband, moved to Nashville & is now a happy mother to a beautiful son. However…

Before moving onto her next chapter, she decided to finalize the current one by googling her ex’s name.

Turns out, his name came up on a website that was dedicated to listing cheaters. I don’t remember the site she had used back then, but when I was told of this site called Cheater Registry, it totally reminded me of my gf’s story. She searched for her ex’s name on the site & found DOZENS of women – whom he had dated in the past – that told stories of his many infidelities, compulsive lying habit & his addiction to young (18+) Eastern European girls.

She was completely FLOORED.

After finding out all of his craziness, my gf suggested that I too, should goggle/search a guy that I am currently dating just to make sure that they don’t have a ‘reputation’.  A few years & many dates later, I still have yet to do this, but I have to admit - I am curious…

Would you ever check to see if the person you are dating could be a registered cheater???

kissies,