So I have this guy friend we’ll call Seth. Seth and I have been friends for some time now, after having met through a mutual friend. I do not believe guys and girls can be just friends unless there is no physical attraction involved. And in this case, there is none…from my side anyway.

Seth is just a great guy overall – super nice, and very honest. He is not my type at all physically, which is why we can go out for cocktails and have a great convo with out any sexual tension (again from my side, anyway). He’s not really that attractive, currently unemployed, shorter than me…you get the point right?

A week prior, Seth & I had met up at a local Irish pub & he had introduced me to his friend, we’ll call him Andrew. Andrew is 30 y.o. attorney, tall, avg. build, brown hair & blue eyes. Definitely very cute, definitely my more my taste. We exchanged hello’s and that was pretty much all I had thought was going to happen. Later that night, Seth introduced me to one of his chick friends, Laura. Laura was a good friend of Andrew’s as well. She & I had spent a good chunk of time in the ladies room chatting it up about guys, fashion, etc. In walks Andrew into the ladie’s room (it’s after hours, so the bar is staying open only to regulars). All three of us chat away when a female patron walks in surprised that Andrew is in the bathroom. Laura explains to her that Andrew is gay, so not to worry. Needless to say, a few minutes later, the bar’s bouncer walks in and kicks Andrew out, saying that the female patron complained that a guy was in the ladies room, so Andrew gets the boot. I ask Laura “wow, I can’t believe he’s gay!? The cute ones always are!”. She just smiles at me and we walk back out to the bar. All of us had a great time that night and I ended up making a new gf in the process as she & I exchanged numbers to hang out one day.

A few days later Laura sends me a text saying “Andrew is interested, let me know if you are too.” Huh??? I text her back saying I thought he was gay. I get no response….okaaaay…

Fast forward, Seth and I make last minute plans to go out for drinks Thursday evening, at the same pub, after I had just finished an amazing dinner with my girlfriend Eva (check out her delicious food blog at http://www.rantonfood.com/). Seth and I meet up & walk to the bar together and there’s Andrew in the front. We say hello and Seth I walk inside and order drinks. A few minutes later Andrew come over to us and we all start to chat. Seth goes to the bathroom and Andrew and I start talking. “I was hoping you would be here”, I say. “And I’m glad you’re not gay!”. We start talking about politics, NYC (he’s originally from the South), grad school, etc., and I tell him we should exchange numbers. Later into the night, Seth decides to leave, I guess because he feels like a third wheel since Andrew & I are engaged in deep convo. The bar closes and Andrew & I walk out. He grabs my hand and we walk up the avenue (he lives closer to the bar than me) and we make tentative plans to go to the movies on the weekend.

The next day, I had a convo with Seth to let him know that I hope he understands that I respect him as a friend and that I think he’s a great guy. His response, “nice guys always finish last.” Aww, I felt so bad, but I never gave him a reason to think we were more than friends anyway and this is why I say that its almost impossible for guys & girls to be just friends. Feelings on either end or both, somehow always get in the way…anyway, apparently Andrew had a convo with Seth that night asking if it was okay if he talks to me and Seth explained to him that it was fine because he & I are just friends, so it’s all good. Or at least I hope so anyway…